We are both in our 30s. I have lived on my own for ages and we aren’t buying a new house until after the wedding. We registered last week and it was tough! I just felt greedy the entire time we were registering.
After talking to a lot of people (and people who will actually be attending the wedding) everyone said the same thing – register for everything you really love. You aren’t forcing anyone to buy a gift or any specific gift, but you’re giving them helpful guidelines if they need them. And you want to give them lots of choice and not feel stuck buying the last of your registry. Also, I was worried about too many big ticket items. But everyone said their big stuff went first (we have 3 big ticket items – which to me is over $150.) And they all told me if I was iffy on something to leave it off. I can add it later.
I was told by several people to imagine you’re having a big dinner party/holiday dinner. Fill in what’s missing from your current items. This past year I held a big party for my Dad’s 65th/Retirement. I ended up buying 16 additional wine glasses (so obviously we aren’t registering for them!) But I found I really lacked any way to present anything. I had no nice platters, I didn’t have enough dishes for a large group, I have good cutlery (a recent gift) but not enough of it for a party. And we didn’t have the right kind of glass for the various beers we were serving.
And everywhere here gives a completion discount for a year after your wedding. So a lot of people have told me to put anything you might want to buy yourself on the registry, to use your completion discount later.
We still have more to register for, but we have a good start. If you want to know whats on our list for ideas…
We are upgrading items from the kitchen that I already have but they aren’t awesome quality. So my pots and pans are from university, they are awful. So we registered for a really awesome set. A KA artisan stand mixer, a dyson, beautiful new bedding, artwork, a griddler, new everyday dishes, a couple of different sizes of roasting pans (I have a giant one, chicken looks so sad in it!) New bake ware, serving dishes, platters, a huge carving board, trivets, specialty glass ware and the ever dreaded toaster (ours is the pits! We actually should buy a new one before the wedding but I’m refusing.) We also registered for new bathroom stuff, a gorgeous wine cabinet, a punch bowl and glasses, a big clock, a mirror…
We’re going back to register for things like: a meat smoker, patio furniture, towels (because I have found that you can always have more towels!), china (if we can find something we like that I feel is reasonable, so far we haven’t.)