Post # 1
Hello hive! I have several questions about protocol when writing thank you cards:
– Is there a general rule of thumb to follow when writing thank you cards?
– Is there anything generic to say or do I need to personalize all of them?
– For the generic items – toaster, plates, silverwarie, etc. – what do you say about those?
Post # 3
I told everyone that I appreciated them sharing our special day with us (if they attended) and then if they bought us a gift, I said how we were using the gift and where it is in the house. For example, “J and I love the depression glass candy dish that you gave us. We love having such a lovely piece of history in our home. We filled it with candy and hope our guests enjoy it as much as we do!” If they gave use money, I thanked them for their “very generous gift.” I also told them how great it was to see them and that we couldn’t wait to get together with them when things calmed down!
Just simple and sincere is best, I think.
Post # 4
how many do you have to write? you don’t HAVE to personalize them but it would be pretty nice. What are you thanking people for? shower party?
if its money i usually just write thank you for your generous gift if it’s a tangible gift i’ll say thoughtful gift. then i try to throw in something personal but if you don’t know someone well enough it’s fine to just keep it generic. it’s going to get tossed anyway!
Post # 5
These are the etiquette tips I am using to write mine and are straight from the Knot (http://wedding.theknot.com/online-wedding-registry/bridal-registry-tips/articles/a-complete-guide-to-sending-thank-you-notes.aspx?MsdVisit=1):
Writing Them: Tips & Tricks
You had to write one to your grandmother for that scarf she knit for you when you were six years old — and when you were seven, eight, nine… But after the dust from the reception settles, you need to seriously get crackin’ on all those wedding thank-you notes — one for every dish, every vase, every new scarf you received.
- Try to start writing wedding thank you notes as soon as gifts start arriving. This may mean before the wedding, so be prepared.
- Don’t attempt to get them all done in one sitting; trust us — it simply won’t happen.
- The rule is that you’re supposed to get thank-yous out for gifts received before the wedding within two weeks of their arrival; after the wedding, within a month after you return from the honeymoon. Well, it’s a nice thing to aspire to, but I say if you get ’em all done before (okay, around) your two-month anniversary, you’ll be happy and so will your guests.
- Traditionally, wedding thank-you notes are written in blue or black ink on folded ivory or white notepaper. If you choose, you can have your married name or monogram embossed on the note (but you shouldn’t use notes with your married name on them until after the wedding; if you must monogram, get some notes with your maiden name or initials and some with your married name or initials).
- Be sure to write a few words about the gift so you don’t get confused. You’ll never remember which of the 10 crystal vases your Aunt Alma gave you, so be specific: “Waterford Balmoral vase.”
- If the gift was money, mention how you plan to use it: “Thank you for the generous check. We are using it as part of the down payment on a house.”
- Put a big check mark next to the guest’s name when the thank-you note has been signed, sealed, and delivered — this is the part you’ll enjoy most.
Expert Examples: Take Note
- Sample wedding thank you note for a cash gift:
Dear Aunt Sue and Uncle Tom,
Thank you so much for your generous gift. Lila and I are saving for a new home and thanks to you, we’ll be shopping for our dream house very soon. Again, many thanks for thinking of us and for sharing our special day. Love, Derek and Lila
- Sample thank-you note for a gift chosen from your bridal registry:
Dear Elizabeth and Albert,
Thank you so much for the crystal wine goblets. We now have a complete set! Derek and I are looking forward to your next visit, when we can enjoy a drink together. Thank you again for thinking of us at this special time in our lives. Warmest regards, Lila and Derek
- Sample thank-you note for a wedding gift you really didn’t like:
Dear Winona and Leif,
Thank you for the fluorescent lava lamps. You are both so thoughtful! Every time we look at them, we will think of you and this special time in our lives. Again, many thanks for sharing our joy. Fondly, Lila and Derek
Read more: Wedding Thank You Notes Guide – TheKnot.com http://wedding.theknot.com/online-wedding-registry/bridal-registry-tips/articles/a-complete-guide-to-sending-thank-you-notes.aspx#ixzz1LFCKz6Rr
Post # 6
@CookieBee: I had my first shower this past weekend, so that’s what I’m needing help w/ =) So far, I only have 22 to write, so not too many just yet…