Post # 1
So I am providing professional hair styling to my bridesmaids and mother on-site at our venue where we will be getting ready. FI’s dad’s girlfriend just asked us if her daughter could also get her hair styled with us (they will pay). She is 17. I don’t mean to be rude, but I don’t really want to organize this. We have a contract with the hair stylist already and have paid in full. I don’t know if we will have to pay to have her there longer.
I don’t really know why she has to have her hair professionally done, as she is not in the wedding in any way (just a guest). I don’t know her very well and am not sure if I want her hanging out with my bridesmaids and I at the venue while we are getting ready.
They have also asked us to look up salons in the area for other people to get their hair done. We are getting married 1 hour from where we live, in a different city, so I have no idea what is available there. Sure, I can look up things on google but is this really my responsibility 5 days out from my wedding?????
I don’t want to ruffle any feathers, and they are traveling very far to come to the wedding so I am thrilled they are coming!
What should I do?
Post # 3
Tell her you have a contract with the stylist and everything was paid in full up front.
Post # 4
@MsW-to-MrsM: The thing is, I believe that the hair stylist will take last-minute people but for an increased rate. :/ I just don’t even want to ask! But I don’t want to lie :-/
Post # 5
I would just tell her I want it to be just me and my closest girls and mom and suggest somewhere she could go, I mean it’s your day.
Post # 6
I would just try to be honest and say this is a special moment for you between you and your mom and closest friends and that you believe the daughter would feel out of place. Just do it in the nicest possible way.
Post # 7
@hollyberry4: I would just politely say “no.” You’re not at all being rude, she’s being rude by inviting herself to the getting ready festivities when she’s not even technically family. Tell her that you’ll be spending the morning with your bridesmaids and your mother. And that the stylist is contracted for a certain amount of time and will already be rushed.
Post # 8
I would email her a list of reputable salons in the area and let her choose on her own. I think its kind of rude cor her to expect you to handle it when they are not in the wedding
Post # 9
@hollyberry4: You don’t have to lie! Just say you paid already and booked your slot and don’t say she’ll take extra people at extra cost 😉 just a matter of choosing your words!
Not going to lie, it’s your wedding, you shouldn’t have to cater to havin your guesta hair done.. That’s on them!
Post # 10
@hollyberry4: Just have your dad’s Girlfriend call the stylist. Tell her: “I’m so excited that Daughter wants to be with us while we’re getting ready. I’ve already signed the contract made the final payment with the stylist. But I do think it’s possible we could add her on to our appt. I’m super busy with all the final details, so it’d be very helpful to me if you could contact the stylist to add Daughter to the schedule.” And I would just be honest about finding another salon. “I’m no familiar with the area, but I’m sure Googling something would do the trick.” It’s not your responsibilty at ALL. The best way to manage stress in these final days is to just say NO (nicely) and DO NOT FEEL BAD about it!
Post # 11
I would just tell her that your stylist is already booked and under contract. Are you going to a salon? Maybe there’s another stylist that can take her.
Post # 12
@hollyberry4: This is not your job and even in my early twenties I knew to not bug the bride at all the week of her wedding or ask for any special requests or favors. Talk about clueless.
It’s your wedding….just tell her the stylist is booked up but she can find some great spots if she opens up her laptop and looks it up herself (nicely of course.)
Post # 13
yeah…I would feel a little odd about this too…the situation is strange. I would personally just give them a list of salons in the area, that way they can call and make arrangements…I really don’t think that should be your responsiblity and with the wedding so close..yikes…that’s asking a lot from you!
I don’t blame you for really not wanting someone you don’t know very well getting ready with you and your bridesmaids…and if she’s not in the wedding…that’s strange. Of course, it’s a nice jesture of hospitality to have her come with you…if that’s what she wants to do….I could imagine it would be odd for her too??
Good luck….I’m sure everything will work out great!
Post # 14
5 days out from your wedding and she’s asking you for favors? Unreal. Be honest and tell her it’s not an option, and that she’ll have to figure it out herself.
Post # 15
I would let them know that your stylist can’t add anyone in and tell them that you don’t want the responsibility of recommending a place that she may or may not like. Tell her to try Yelp and look at local reviews. Totally not your responsibility to figure this out for her.
Post # 16
This isn’t a hair party or a free for all; its preparation for the wedding ceremony. I find the request very odd, and I honestly would talk with my dad and tell him they need to take her to a salon. They need to be finding a salon themselves.