(Closed) What do I say????? uncomfortable request…advice please

posted 8 years ago in Beauty
Post # 17
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Send her a link with a yelp.com listing of the highest rated hair salons where you’re getting married, then tell her sorry, your stylist is booked up and it’s under contract (group rate or something like that)

Post # 18
6296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just say no. “I’m sorry but we don’t have time for another person. The stylist has already set a timeline with us based on the number of participants written in the contract.”

Post # 19
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

“Our stylist is going to have her hands full with me and all of the maids, but here a link to a list of salons of yelp with reviews!” Don’t make excuses. It leaves them room to negotiate. Providing them a with a link to yelp with a list of salons in the area gives them a place to start their own research.

Post # 20
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hollyberry4: “Sorry, but it will be a busy and stressful time, and it won’t work to have extra people there. It’ll already be busy and crowded. Also it will mean everything takes longer”

Post # 21
4913 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

quickly yelp some salons that have 4 stars and above and send them an email saying what the PPs said about this being a special moment for you and your girls and that the lady is paid in full. she might also end up adding time to your timeline and who has time for that? aint nobody got time fo that!

Post # 22
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@hollyberry4:  I would tell her that the contract’s already done, and that it’s just not possible. Seriously, is she that ridiculous that she thinks you should make plans for HER … ALMOST GROWN … daughter? Seriously, I’d be snarky and suggest a great website you found: “http://www.google.com”

also, it’s coming up close – so excited for you!

Post # 23
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

No no no.  Get your hair done before just like every other guest.  You want to be comfortable as you prepare not censoring because a teen is there. ypuce already booked & you can’t alter the appt.  good luck!

Post # 24
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I feel your pain…I am planning the whole wedding for 150 confirmed ppl  on my own..cause my bridesmaids are way too busy and my fiance and his parents live in another country…I didnt find a hair stylist and make up artist for myself, my bridesmaids, and our mothers yet..I was too busy with other stuff…

And..two days ago my future Mother-In-Law told me that her girlfriends (like 15 of these older ladies Surprised) asked her if I can find hair stylists and make up artists for them…I was shocked…cause she knows I am here all on my own…Besides, our moms, my bridesmaids and myself will be getting ready all in the same hotel suit..so it will be easy to arrange…But how do I suppose to arrange appointments for all these women who are staying in different hotels…WTF WTF WTF WTF WTF???????????????????????????????????

Anyways, I am upset..but can’t tell her anything…

But for you…I suggest just telling the truth…just say that your artist is booked up and there will be no time for another person..

Post # 25
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@hollyberry4:  What about the fact that your stylist will only have so much time available for the current appointments as booked, and that there simply isn’t any time to fit in another styling? Done.

I agree with other Bees: email a quick Yelp list of the area and say you just have too many other details to manage right now but hope that will help. That ought to send her the right message. They’re grown ups and can figure it out themselves.



Post # 26
880 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would say “sorry the hair stylist contract is already decided and paid for, but I’m sure she can find another option.” then offer the quick and easy yelp/google map list and be done with it. good luck!

Post # 27
98 posts
Worker bee

@hollyberry4:  honestly I would let her get her hair done with you guys. I’ve seen people ask that before and the request isn’t so weird since it is immediate family kinda. consult your hairstylist and see if it can be done and how much, she’s paying so really no need to cause waves over something so minuscule. I would also try to accomodate your guests since it is out of town. to me the requests are no big deal, but if it really disturbs you just say no

Post # 28
643 posts
Busy bee

This happened to me and it was a difficult situation. I paid $2000 for professional hair and make up for my bridesmaids, myself, my sister, my flower girls, my mother and my mother in law. My cousins then all asked if they could have to do with my stylist as well. I had to politely tell them we didn’t have time.

Post # 29
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Could you just explain that youve already signed the contract but x y z salon is nearby and may be able to acommodate her?

Post # 31
726 posts
Busy bee

@hollyberry4:  That was very nice of you. But what a RIDICULOUS request. Honestly, some people! 

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