Post # 1
OK, so I’ll start by saying that I know the etiquitte – I need to send a thank you card to everyone who came to my wedding. However, there were several guests who did not give us a card (much less a gift). In addition, 2 of these guests were the *only* source of drama at our wedding – not to get into it, but not people who are high on list of “people I like” at the moment.
So, the question I have is :what do I write to them in the card? “Thanks for coming, it was great you were there to celebrate with us!” That only takes up 1.5 lives in the card….what else could I write?
Any thoughts? Gracias!
PS- several other people did not get us gifts…but these people were also very integral to our day (did readings, help set up the ceremony, etc), so I have lots to say to thank them for all the work they did helping make our day so special!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s necessary to send thank you notes if they didn’t give a gift. The reception itself is the “thank you for coming” for the guests. And they are not expecting a thank you if they didn’t give you a gift! But for the people that helped with the ceremony & other tasks, I would definitely send them a thank you note! 🙂
Post # 4
I completely agree with pecanpie!
Post # 5
TECHNICALLY you should write a thank you note to EVERYONE who came even if they gave a gift or not.
Maybe write large so it takes up more space on the card? Haha!
Post # 6
Post # 7
You know what? I would send them that card, with exactly what you suggested, and no more.
They’ll get the message … and the subtext.
Post # 8
@Rock Hugger: The most polite behaviour is to thank guests only for gifts. You have already thanked them for attending, by hosting them in the reception, and also through speaking with each guest at your wedding.
They owe you a thank you note for your lovely hosting.
It is actually impolite to send a thank you for attending note, as it can be seen as fishing for gifts, as they have already been thanked.
Post # 9
I didn’t even know thank you cards were apart of etiquette the first time I went to a wedding. I personally don’t see why you would thank someone who contributed nothing good to your wedding…
Post # 10
Correct Etiquette — Send a thank you card for gift or services.
Incorrect Etiquette — Sending thank you card for attending, as PP stated thanks for attending is the reception. (That’s why you gave them free food and drinks, as a thanks.)