(Closed) What do I write for this Thank You note?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it’s necessary to send thank you notes if they didn’t give a gift. The reception itself is the “thank you for coming” for the guests. And they are not expecting a thank you if they didn’t give you a gift! But for the people that helped with the ceremony & other tasks, I would definitely send them a thank you note! 🙂

Post # 4
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1186 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I completely agree with pecanpie!

Post # 5
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

TECHNICALLY you should write a thank you note to EVERYONE who came even if they gave a gift or not. 

Maybe write large so it takes up more space on the card? Haha! 

Post # 7
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

You know what? I would send them that card, with exactly what you suggested, and no more.

They’ll get the message … and the subtext.

Post # 8
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3266 posts
Sugar bee

@Rock Hugger:  The most polite behaviour is to thank guests only for gifts.  You have already thanked them for attending, by hosting them in the reception, and also through speaking with each guest at your wedding. 

They owe you a thank you note for your lovely hosting. 

It is actually impolite to send a thank you for attending note, as it can be seen as fishing for gifts, as they have already been thanked.

 

Post # 9
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I didn’t even know thank you cards were apart of etiquette the first time I went to a wedding. I personally don’t see why you would thank someone who contributed nothing good to your wedding…

Post # 10
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581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Correct Etiquette — Send a thank you card for gift or services.

Incorrect Etiquette — Sending thank you card for attending, as PP stated thanks for attending is the reception. (That’s why you gave them free food and drinks, as a thanks.)

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