(Closed) What Do Men Think of Boudoir Photos?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know my Fiance would view this as a happy suprise and not a betrayal of trust. However, I can see how it might be rub some the wrong way – it is a very intimate ordeal! Boudoir photography is not for everyone and I think the way the gift is perceived varies greatly depending upon the relationship.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Fiance has commented that he would really love if I did this for hime one day. He is usually quite garded when it commes to other men being near me. He is the one who isists I use 2 locks on the front door instead of 1 in a neighboorhood that usually leaves there doors wide open. I think as long as no one is touching you or making any odd comments then its fine. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I don’t think it’s really the man’s place to comment or judge his SO if she wants to do these pictures. For a woman’s self-esteem, personal sex appeal, and sense of adventure, they’re really a blast — and for those of us (like me) who aren’t modest or self-conscious about our bodies and sexuality, they’re a fun thing to do regardless of the actual photo outcome.

I did a boudoir shoot and gave a book of favorite shots to Darling Husband. They were a mix of the sexy pin-up or Moulin Rouge style and some beauty shots, and he absolutely loved them all. Given my personality he wasn’t shocked at all, just pleasantly surprised that I’d done the shoot and made the book for him. He isn’t the type to get jealous, but my photog (also wedding photog) is female so that was never a factor. 

He did request to see more of the outfits and lingerie I used at the shoot… oops, now he knows I’d been hoarding it, so now I have zero excuses not to wear them!

The book will be a nice keepsake for the future, but it’s also fun to look at even now as a pick-me-up on those “UGH” days 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

SO flat out told me he does not want anyone seeing me nude or semi nude other than him.

So no boudoir photos for me, even though I wouldn’t mind doing it. He said even if it is a girl photographer he just doesn’t want it.

My SO is in no way controling of me or my body but it’s something he is just not comfortable with. When I think about it with the shoe on the other foot I would be just as uncomfortable if he had someone photographing him nude or almost nude.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My husband thought they were pretty pointless. If I did it, it would be for me, not for him – I think he’d prefer something racier than the traditional boudoir shoot ;-).

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BostonBaby:  You said, “I don’t think it’s really the man’s place to comment or judge his SO if she wants to do these pictures.”

I would have to strongly disagree. Although my SO is comfortable with me doing these pictures, I would be extremely uncomfortable if he did something similar. I think that sexuality is something that is shared between a couple and, therefore, your partner should rightfully have some say – if that’s not the case in your relationship, then great! However, both a man and woman should consult with their partner before engaging in any kind of sexual behavior – this includes going to strip clubs, posing nude/semi-nude for photographs, and doing anything else that has a direct sexual connotation.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yikes, I hope my Fiance doesn’t think that way! I am getting my pics taken in a few weeks (combo of boudoir and pin-up) and giving them to him on our wedding day. It is an all female studio, though, so I don’t think he’ll be upset. Plus, I’m not doing any kind of nudity.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Huh. That does strike me as kind of… out of hand. Fiance was confused by them when we ran across some during the wedding photography hunt, but once he got the picture (so to speak, har har) he started to like the idea of me having them done. The only context in which I could understand the shared decision-making kind of thing is if the photog was going to use my pics, hypothetically, on his/her blog or website, which I wouldn’t be comfortable with to start with. My perspective is that doctors, etc., see me more substantially nekkid than a photographer would anyway, and if Fiance wanted me to consult with him every time someone was going to see my body at all, we would have some serious talks to have.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What I wore for my b-pics is no less than what I’d wear on the beach, so I really couldn’t see my H having an issue with it.  He’s not really that type anyway.  He loved the book I gave him.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper

I actually think my husband might share some of those feelings. Maybe not quite to that extent, but somewhat.

But let me back that up:  we’re a pretty conservative couple. We saved sex for marriage, so sensuality is something that is confined to our marriage. As such, it would be very out of character for me to get boudoir photos taken and to be sensual in a setting without my husband (even though the product is intended for my husband). I’d don’t think I’d ever be comfortable doing boudoir photos, and I don’t think my husband would be super comfortable with it, either. And for us, that makes sense. It’s not judgmental or controlling or anything like that.

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