(Closed) What do people do at showers, gift wise

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
4037 posts
Honey bee

Although it may vary by country, region, culture, or families, (I’m in the mid-Atlantic USA), I’ve always thought the purpose of a bridal shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts. Some put gift registry information in the shower invitation (in the wedding invites is a no-no), while others prefer to use word of mouth (mothers of the couple, bridal party), telling guests (if they ask), when they RSVP, etc.

In my family and social circle, almost everyone brings a gift in an envelope, to the wedding.

Post # 3
5531 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

The purpose of the shower is to shower the bride with gifts. Thats like ….inviting someone to a baby shower and not giving them the registry. Then you don’t know what the mom needs. 

Post # 4
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

kikilo:  The whole purpose of a shower is to give the bride gifts. I have no idea what you would do if no gifts are involved. Your mom is totally wrong in this case. My sister threw mine and she put where we were registered on the invite. 

Post # 5
47254 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

kikilo:  The core purpose of a shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts. It is therfore acceptable to include registry information. If the shower is not a surprise shower for you, phone your aunt yourself and give her the information. Just make sure that there are less expensice “shower type” gifts on the registry.

Your mother may have this confused with wedding invitations where it is not acceptable to include registry . I havw never bought a wedding gift that was less expensive than a shower gift and I doubt many people have.

You are joking about hosting your own shower, aren’t you? That would be the height of rudeness.

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