(Closed) What do people do during our first dance

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have only been to weddings where people are sitting during the first dance.

Post # 4
45 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m going toask the DJ to ask everyone to gather around the dance floor. Like you, we have put in a lot of effort to make our first dance awesome!

Post # 6
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

According to Miss Manners the point of the first dance, parents’ dance etc. is to make guests feel comfortable about getting on the dance floor themselves; I assume that’s why guests usually stand up for it. Since yours is going to be before dessert you’ll probably have to ask people to gather around. If I haven’t finished my dinner yet my instinct as a guest would be to sit tight till my dessert arrives!

Post # 7
193 posts
Blushing bee

@YoungMrsUng: I would get everyone gathered around aswell. If I was at a wedding I would hate to miss it

Post # 8
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our dance floor was in a seperate area. My sister (MOH) gave the last toast and at teh end of her toast said, “I’d like to invite everyone to the dance floor for the bride and groom’s first dance.”

Everyone came in and we got great pictures like this:


Post # 9
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

At my wedding the dance floor was outside underneath a tent but there were benches, cocktail tables, and a couple tables for elderly people who don’t dance to sit at. The DJ asked everyone to go outside and a lot of people gathered around the dance floor and others sat at the tables/benches.

At just about every wedding I have shot so far as a photographer people gathered around when it was time for the first dance 🙂

Post # 10
13294 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Our venue has a separate dancing area (a huge marble rotunda), so we’re going to do our first dance towards the end of the cocktail hour and then have people file to their seats (I think).  That way everyone is already in the rotunda from the cocktail hour, and then we can shuffle everyone in to eat!

Post # 11
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Since your dance has been choreographed, I think it makes sense to have people gather. We’re just having people stay seated during ours.

People who really want to see or want to take pictures will stand anyway

Post # 12
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’ve never been to a wedding where people gathered around the floor. Definetly not the norm in my area. I would do it, but keep in mind since your doing a choreographed dance, the length. I’ve seen some dances go on for awhile and to have you guests standing for long periods would lose their attention.

Post # 13
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Usually people are sitting, that way they everyone can see ( especially kids and your very short grandma, lol)

Post # 14
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve been to a mix. Some weddings I’ve seen people sit and watch, others everyone stands and watches the bride and groom. And once, a bride and grooms dance was interrupted by children. The latter is not something I want to have to experience!

Post # 15
1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think whether your DJ makes an announcement or not, people will naturally gather. The first dance is one of the most romantic parts of the wedding reception!

Post # 16
33 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

Get up and take pictures?

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