Post # 1
Ok Hive, whats the deal? Are people supposed to stay in their seat during our first dance, or should my MC ask them to gather around? My reception is in a large hall so everyone should be able to see from their seats (some will obviously need to turn around), but we’ve gone through a lot of effort to get a choreographed dance and dont want it to go unnoticed.
I’ve always thought gathering around the d-floor was the norm but suddenly I see so many pictures with guests sitting and am so confused.
First dance will be after dinner and cake cutting, and before parents dance and dessert.
Please help bees, my big day is this weekend! eeeek!
Post # 3
I have only been to weddings where people are sitting during the first dance.
Post # 4
I’m going toask the DJ to ask everyone to gather around the dance floor. Like you, we have put in a lot of effort to make our first dance awesome!
Post # 5
@PinkLimeNZ: < this is what I’ve experienced.
Post # 6
According to Miss Manners the point of the first dance, parents’ dance etc. is to make guests feel comfortable about getting on the dance floor themselves; I assume that’s why guests usually stand up for it. Since yours is going to be before dessert you’ll probably have to ask people to gather around. If I haven’t finished my dinner yet my instinct as a guest would be to sit tight till my dessert arrives!
Post # 7
@YoungMrsUng: I would get everyone gathered around aswell. If I was at a wedding I would hate to miss it
Post # 8
Our dance floor was in a seperate area. My sister (MOH) gave the last toast and at teh end of her toast said, “I’d like to invite everyone to the dance floor for the bride and groom’s first dance.”
Everyone came in and we got great pictures like this:
Post # 9
At my wedding the dance floor was outside underneath a tent but there were benches, cocktail tables, and a couple tables for elderly people who don’t dance to sit at. The DJ asked everyone to go outside and a lot of people gathered around the dance floor and others sat at the tables/benches.
At just about every wedding I have shot so far as a photographer people gathered around when it was time for the first dance 🙂
Post # 10
Our venue has a separate dancing area (a huge marble rotunda), so we’re going to do our first dance towards the end of the cocktail hour and then have people file to their seats (I think). That way everyone is already in the rotunda from the cocktail hour, and then we can shuffle everyone in to eat!
Post # 11
Since your dance has been choreographed, I think it makes sense to have people gather. We’re just having people stay seated during ours.
People who really want to see or want to take pictures will stand anyway
Post # 12
I’ve never been to a wedding where people gathered around the floor. Definetly not the norm in my area. I would do it, but keep in mind since your doing a choreographed dance, the length. I’ve seen some dances go on for awhile and to have you guests standing for long periods would lose their attention.
Post # 13
Usually people are sitting, that way they everyone can see ( especially kids and your very short grandma, lol)
Post # 14
I’ve been to a mix. Some weddings I’ve seen people sit and watch, others everyone stands and watches the bride and groom. And once, a bride and grooms dance was interrupted by children. The latter is not something I want to have to experience!
Post # 15
I think whether your DJ makes an announcement or not, people will naturally gather. The first dance is one of the most romantic parts of the wedding reception!
Post # 16
Get up and take pictures?