(Closed) What DO people remember?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
4485 posts
Honey bee

Food/drinks, entertainment, the couple’s hopsitality and attitude. People remember whether the refreshments (either full dinner or just desserts) were good or bad – they will remember the taste before they remember the looks at all, if they had to pay for their drinks or not, if the music (dj or ipod) was good or bad and if people danced at all if there was dancing available. Plus they remember whether the couple were in good spirits and gracious hosts or if they were sourpusses all night. The hospitality also includes whether there was a gap between the ceremony and reception. Any gap longer than the driving time to the reception is off-putting to many people. Also, whether they send thank you notes after the wedding is something guests remember. Everything else is entirely optional and no one will miss it if it is not there, contrary to what the magazines, blogs, online wedding communities all tell you. Folks will only remember the other details if something was spectacularly good and unique or spectacularly bad and unique. Very few if any will remember the clothing, decorations, what the cake looked like, invites, etc.

Post # 33
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I remember the personal/unique parts of the wedding. Vows are super super important to me. The flow of the evening and how organized things were. I don’t care much for favors but love a good dj/band.

I also remember if the couple didn’t even bother to acknowledge my presence. I hate that. Say thank you to your guests, even if its general and during a toast. Say something.

Post # 34
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i don’t remember much!

i usually remember the food, so i’m not surprised by the fact that everyone seems to be remembering our cake.

Post # 35
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

At my uncles wedding when I was in middle school, they hired this operatic baritone to sing ave Maria during the ceremony. My brothher was about 8 years old and he started silently laughing. Then my GRANDMA started laughing and so did her sister! They were all quiet but by the end of the song so many people were laughing silently, my aunt was crying she was laughing so hard.

I’ll never forget that.

I also remember group activities, like big fun group dances.

Post # 36
7772 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

The most memorable thing at any wedding i’ve been to was the AWFUL food at our neighbors wedding. I also remember the banquet hall being really shoddy and a random drunk guy from the extrememly loud party across the hall busting in in the middle of the ceremony. I felt to bad for her, but her wedding was a wreck. Oh man. I remember that one because of how bad it was.

The other things I remember:

– the boring reception at a Baptist wedding because the church wouldn’t allow music or dancing.

– the extrememly touching slideshow during the ceremony of that same wedding. I cried. It was so sweet.

– They also had live goldfish in their centerpieces.

-I remember my cousin’s wife’s 90s snow-monster dress.

-I remember my uncle keeping his guests waiting for an hour and a half because they were ridiculously late for the reception and we couldn’t eat without them.

Seriously, that’s it. I dont remember the flowers or decor at all, I dont remember what the dresses looked like (except at said 90s wedding, because I was a Jr. BM). I only remember the food at the one because it was awful. Liek so many of the other bees, I remember impressions of the general feeling of the day. I remember if I had fun or not.

Post # 37
24 posts

I remember the food (if it was good or bad, if there was enough, if there was something to snack on between the ceremony and reception), the alcohol (how many bottles of wine on each table, free vodka punch, unlimited wine during dinner, open bar), and the people who’s table I was seated with (I was once seated with some cousins that I did NOT get along with and it made for a long, uncomfortable night).

Post # 38
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i never remember the food since 90% of the time i cant eat it. However i do remember the cake – how it tastes, and whether or not i got any (or can eat it – PLEASE folks stop using amaretto in your cakes! or almond! not everyone can eat nuts – more than you think!)

i remember how many kids there are – since i am not a kid person. usually i remember the bad behavior.

i remember the music, and if i wanted to get up and dance. i still remember my friends wedding where i barely sat down the entire time. best. wedding. band. EVER.

i remember when the couple dont particularly seem in love.

i remember hideous bridal gowns or bridesmaids dresses.

i remember drunken toasts or funny toasts.

i remember cash bars. especially the ones i dont know about before hand and have no cash. boo.

and i remember ones i have to travel for a while.

but like others have said i usually only remember insanely bad or exceptionally good things. nothing run of the mill is usually gonna spark memories for me.

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