Post # 1
We are having an adults-only ceremony and reception. However, there are 2 5-year-old girls who will be FG’s for the ceremony.
1st Flower Girl – FI’s neice has 1 sister that will be 9 months old at the wedding.
2nd Flower Girl – my cousin’s daughter has 2 sisters – age 4 and 2 at the wedding.
So, that’s 5 little girls total who need to be considered. What I’m not sure about is what to do with these kids after the ceremony? I’ve thought about offering child care in a small room near the reception area. I figure the kids will be bored at an adults-only party and I just assume that the parents would want a break for the night. When I brought this up to my Fiance though, he told me I was just being negative about children and of course the children would be at the reception. This line of commenting led to a 15-20 minute argument. Sigh.
I suppose I’m worried that other guests whose children were not invited will be upset and wonder why we made these decisions. The main reason we aren’t including children is because we are having a more formal affair and we really just wanted it to be a time for us to let loose with all of our friends. We have many other events throughout the year when we invite everyone’s kids.
Any ideas or suggestions for what to do with these 5 little girls would be great!
Post # 3
We had coloring books, silly band and little games that they could take to their tables. Then they will be eating and dancing. As a parent we always pack a little bag of books and snack to keep them entertained.
Post # 4
Typically you read that it’s all or none when it comes to children. I think people would understand if you had the two Flower Girl at the reception but when you open it up to also including their siblings, now you’ve got 5 children (3 of which weren’t in the wedding party) so that makes it seem like other people should be able to invite their children too.
I would talk to the parents of the children. Let them know that you’re having an adult only reception and ask them if they have another grandparent that can come get them, or offer to get a sitter.
After recently going through this myself – make sure you and your fiance are on the same page. No kids means no kids.
Post # 5
@milesbella: I totally with you about the siblings of the FG’s not being invited, but my Future Mother-In-Law had a fit when I told her that the other child would not be invited. Future Mother-In-Law basically told me that she would just bring her anyways. She has a history of doing the exact opposite of what I’ve asked. Unfortunately, my Fiance has been absolutely no help in any of this. In regards to the other Flower Girl, I could probably negotiate with the 3 kids there – been trying to get ahold of my cousin, but she’s not great at keeping in touch. I know I’ve got a while to work things out – but I want to make things as clear as possible to everyone.