(Closed) What do you and DH do after coming home from work? How much time spent together?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Around how much time do you and your DH/SO spend together after coming home from work?

    1 hour or less

    2 hours

    3 hours

    4 hours

    5+ hours

  • Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Seems like a lot of us really spend our entire evenings with our SO’s, but assume that other people don’t do the same thing.. I definitely thought we were unusual for it, and thought maybe we were too clingy/codependent, but seems like y’all are, too! lol

    Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    We are generally both home 3 nights per week and we spend pretty much all that time together. One of us will be cooking dinner and the other will hang out in the kitchen and catch up on how our days went, then we eat together, and then we hang out together on laptops or just watching TV/movies. Sometimes if we are looking at the same thing online we will Chromecast it onto the TV so we can both see it. We always go to bed together if we are both home and we really enjoy our “debrief” time just chatting before sleeping.

    Post # 33
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We both work jobs that allow us to get off work earlier than your normal office job. He’s done around 1-2pm and I’m done around 3, and my commute is all of 17 miles from our home so it doesn’t take long for me to get there! We usually take about 30 minutes once I’m home to unwind and relax a bit and then decide what we’re up for. Sometimes we take our pup for a walk and then come home and cook dinner. Tuesday nights we usually catch up on our shows, so we cook and watch whatever’s recorded. We do spend a lot of time together, but if a girlfriend calls and wants to meet up for dinner we do or he goes to the driving range with one of his friends. We’re usually pretty mellow though, especially right now since I’m pregnant. We almost always go to bed together, I have a hard time sleeping without him, I’m a very light sleeper and like to know he’s next to me. 

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    Post # 34
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016 - Theater

    I am so relieved to see most everyone doesn’t have ample time with their spouses. Although we spend 5 hours “together”, we’re really mostly just going through the evening routine of dinner, gym, walk dog, clean, shower and go sleep! I know that I could pinch dinner and cleanup from that because I’m home, but in 6 months I got really sick and tired of feeling like paid help rather than a wife, so I started pushing dinner until my wife’d be home to cook with me (or at least help prep a side or something).

    I shouldn’t complain, though. Looks like some of your spouses or yourselves work some mad hours.

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement

    My fiance has a full-time job and he carpools with his dad and his best friend since they all work for the same company. They work about 45 minutes to an hour away, depending on morning rush hour traffic. This means my fiance is gone from 7am to 7pm, Monday-Friday. We get about three or 3.5 hours together after he gets home. I usually fall asleep around 10:30pm or before. I am almost always asleep first.

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

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    mus1ca1xo:  typical night when we work; come home, take off work clothes and change into lounge/pajamas, we eat dinner as a family (with out toddler), she either has bath or story time (typically his doing), then we watch tv together or read together After our daughter goes to sleep. Let the dogs in to relax and settle before bedtime for them too  

    We usually get 3 hours together before bed. Usually less, not typically more. Sometimes we go to bed at 8 just because our days can be exhausting! 

    We go to bed together most nights but if my husband has a project or vehicle he’s working on, he will stay up for that. Sometimes we go to bed at the same time but I fall asleep first while he reads (he’s a big reader!) 

    Post # 37
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    mus1ca1xo:  not much on a weeknight. we come home, our daughter is usually asleep from the ride home from daycare, we leave her sleeping, change into comfy clothes, get dinner started, i wash her bottles from the day, prep them for the next day, prep the coffee for the next day, eat dinner, and then ill feed baby, eat dinner, go to the gym for an hour, come home and watch tv for a bit. so we spend about 3 hours a night together? sometimes less bc if i don’t go to the gym i end up passing out before 10pm and we get home around 630!

    Post # 38
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    Worker bee

    I live separately from my So, but its a 15 min walk from my place. We usually visit each other starting in the evening for dinner (and maybe watch a couple episodes of a show or talk w the roommates). Occasionally we both do work we have to catch up on. Then we pack our meals for the next day and go to bed! rinse and repeat, haha. 

    Post # 39
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We don’t normally have time to do much!  We are usually home ~2 hours before we go to sleep and we typically spend the time doing chores like cooking/eating dinner, packing lunch for the next day, etc.  Sometimes we watch a TV show or play cards, often we go on a walk together. Too often we are each reading or entertaining ourselves on our devices!

    My DH has actually been a bit bummed out that our evenings aren’t more exciting and eventful, but honestly after working and my super long commute, I don’t have the energy and need some downtime.  I’m trying to encourage him to join some sports teams to add a little more fun into the after-work hours.

    Post # 40
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    Blushing bee

    Not married yet, but me and my SO live together. We’re usually both home from work by 6 and then I usually cook dinner, he helps me clean up. I may do a load of laundry or some other chore around the house and then we watch TV for a few hours and go to bed. Nothing exciting, but we enjoy it.

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee

    Depends on the night! but almost always spend 5+ hours together. Monday’s we have our meeting (religious meeting) every week that we go to from 7:30-9:15 and get home at around 10. Tuesday and Wednesday it’s: get home at 6:15-6:30. Gym from 7-8, shower, cook and eat dinner together, and then either watch tv, play board game, or I read and he’s on computer.  Thursday’s we’re together all day doing our volunteer work, so it’s usually a laid back night at home. Still together, in same room, just doing different things. Friday’s we usually have plans, so we get home, shower/change, go hang out with friends, and then come home. Basically we are always in the same room, but half the time doing separate things. We go to bed at the same time, whoever decides to go to bed, the other follows! Usually it’s after 11:30, so we just go to sleep or watch something on phone or tablet.

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing bee

    Netflix and chill!!!! 😉 😉

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We don’t do to much unless we have to go out. We usually eat dinner together, talk, cuddle, and watch TV. We go to bed at the same time. Always have and we’ve been together 8 years and married for almost two. 

    Post # 44
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    Helper bee

    We spend 3 nights a week together. I teach a night class once a week and he is in a weekly gaming group, which works out so we each have the apartment to ourselves once a week. On the days we are together, we usually watch TV or a movie while eating dinner, then he does dishes and I do some other chore. After that we usually do our grading while sharing the futon, or if it’s a light work night we’ll play a board game or a video game. I get into bed around 11 to read and he comes in around midnight and we immediately fall asleep. We’re able to spend a lot more time together now that we cook all the meals for the week on Sunday and only have to heat one container up each night.

    Post # 45
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2016 - Our little church

    Fiance schedule is very crazy however, on Sunday’s we sit down for dinner and watch The Walking Dead. No matter how crazy the week is that time is reserved.

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