(Closed) What do you and the FI/DH fight most about ?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What causes you and your SO to fight the most?

    Money issues

    The opposite sex

    Friends

    Work related issues

    Sex

    Other ( Explain below)

  • Post # 62
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Our biggest arguments are based around our long distance this year while I am in Teachers College. I find that it is mostly me lol. I just get upset that we are apart. Can’t wait until it is over – too bad I graduate in April and he goes for training for 5 months – light at the end of the tunnel?

    Post # 63
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Chores!

    Post # 64
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    Bumble bee

    We don’t really fight about anything. Sometimes we play bicker, but we haven’t really ever had a fight about anything.

    Post # 65
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My Fiance and I typically just have fights that come down to communication issues. We’re long distance so we’ve had to work through a lot of things over the years, but typically we fight over not mentioning things, or a lack of follow through due to poor communication. We’re pretty good about talking things through and learning from the issues though… we don’t really have any other option besides that. 

     

    Post # 66
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Our fights are always over stupid things. I can’t even think of an example since the topics were so stupid.

    Post # 67
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @Okole Maluna: oh my god, preach it sister! My fi and I CONSTANTLY have that arguement.

    Post # 68
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    Busy bee

    We both have anxiety issues so we fight about stuff one or other of us has over-thought but tbh we VERY RARELY fight

    Post # 69
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My DH is a bit of a workaholic. I love that he has an amazing work ethic, I really respsect and admire that about him. But it can be frustrating because I feel that sometimes he struggles to set boundaries and I worry that it will get worse not better. For example, working weekends (when he’s on salary and doesn’t earn extra). And he has trouble “switching off” becuase he’s thinking of work even when he’s home often. 

    It can be VERY frustrating!

    Post # 70
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Household chores, definitely. I work from home (full time!) which means I’m just around a lot more, no commute, etc. So I tend to do more of the day-to-day stuff and while I don’t USUALLY mind that much, sometimes it bothers me that my husband doesn’t really acknowledge/appreciate that I do more. Then one day he’ll do something that pisses me off (like ask me to unload the dishwasher, which pissed me off because obviously I was going to do it anyways and he doesn’t need to remind me like its my job) and I’ll go off about him not helping enough and/or not appreciating enough. 

    We go round and round. He does really try I think, but I think it is hard for guys to go from bachelor-hood to living in a nice clean house sometimes and they don’t realize entirely how much upkeep that takes. 

    As fights go, I guess these are pretty tame and infrequent 🙂

    Post # 71
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

    My boyfriend and I almost never fight except about sex.  I have an almost non-existent sex drive and his is what I would consider normal.  He’s really good about not being pushy but when he does ask I tend to feel guilty and then I get defensive and he gets defensive and blah blah blah.  That’s the only thing we ever fight about really.  It’s a problem but we’re trying to work on it.

    Post # 72
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Ugh the thing that drives me nuts is our Communication it’s the worst, he doesn’t listen to me.  And in retrospect I don’t with him at times.  When I try to tell him somthing it goes in one ear and out the other.  And he tunes me out (great at it as being a former DJ) and that will then piss me off.  But there’s also the occasional him thinking I’m telling him what to do or demanding things when I’m not.  However I know I can be bossy and a control freak.  And we fight about keeping things clean I’m not one that likes to keep everything so tidy like him.  I hate when he makes me later than I already am sometimes because he’s slower at getting ready.  And then when we fight about his follow thru on things we do discuss.  To his credit he does have memory problems due to his medical issues which doesn’t help at all.  Lately is about things I’m planning for the wedding.

    Most major things we get along with but one is a work in progress that I know God will change his heart.

    Post # 73
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2004

    Other:  cleaning.

    Post # 74
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I chose “work issues”, mostly about who’s spending too much time at work.  DH’s work has virtually endless offers of overtime, and I sometimes get annoyed when “missing suchandsuch is only worth X amount of dollars”, or that he’s just never home. 

    Post # 75
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    Helper bee

    Stupid stuff.  Like really stupid stuff.  It mostly just lets off steam and then like 2 minutes later we start laughing because we’re like “why the heck were we bickering about THAT?!”

    Post # 76
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    Bumble bee

    I chose other because usually it has to do with his lack of romance.  He cant expect me to want to have sex if all he ever does is fart and grab my ass!!

    I’ve also been starting fights about committment and maturity lately.  All of this is derived from the fact that weve been togethr 3 years, are 25 and not engaged yet. So that one is my fault.

    We dont really fight an awful lot though in my opinion. 

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