- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Elaborate in a post if you wish!
Elaborate in a post if you wish!
Communication styles!!!! We are on the same page about almost everything….but the problem is that he likes to plan/organize/deal with everything in his head before hand…and then tell me everything once it is 100% planned or dealt with. I like to express myself in the moment and plan collectively.
We argue most about money. I’ve even vented in a post or two. He’s just not the best saver… or budgeter… or on time bill payer. He is improving but I think its just because he doesn’t want the HULK to come out anymore. The argument usually turns into the communication fight too. Luckily, we probably only fight about once a month, but still, come on! Lol
Money – he is VERY tight with it (he’s been screwed over by family members, roommates, ex’s, etc.) and I’m NOT – I make bonus money in my job, and as long as I have $ in my bank account, heck yeah I’m gonna spend it! Merging our finances has been one of the most trying (yet rewarding) things we’ve done. That said, we still squabble about, “Do we REALLY need this $100 padded bench for our living room?” and “Why did you go over the grocery budget?” Lol.
We argue about communication and chores. Communication because he insists that I email him plans, or he won’t remember them. I think that’s absurd and he should just listen to me when I talk! And chores, because I’m a little on the lazy side, and he’s a little OCD! Lol, but we always make up before bed!
I wasn’t really sure what to vote for. Fiance and I usually only have a few big fights throughout the year. We’ve fought a lot about sex, but we’ve been really good about that lately. We’ve never seriously fought about money, thankfully. Actually, we often fight about his driving. I can’t STAND how he drives sometimes. We usually just have little tiffs about stupid stuff.
Our last big fight was a few weeks ago when I caught him dipping (chewing tobacco). He actually tried to hide it from me even though I was right in front of him. Anyway, we talked about why I was so upset and moved on.
He’s very non-confrontational which works out for us because he sees when I’m just in a bad mood and knows it will pass. He doesn’t ever push my buttons or egg on a fight. I really got lucky with this one 🙂
we very rarely argue. the arguments i can remember are…. when he wanted to go to a strip club for his bachelor party. right when i said i wasn’t comfortable with it he said he wouldn’t go (and they didn’t) but i was still uncomfortable with the fact that he WANTED to go and have another girls hooha on him. and when we moved in together, that was one big arguement. i had gotten a job that same week, and was very stressed out by it, we weren’t communicating, it was just bad news. but that’s over now, we’re oddly both very laid back people. which is awesome because my last relationship was nothing but fighting.
I voted other. We mainly argue about him doing things that purposely annoy me to no end. He’s really laid back so not much gets to him. But I swear he does things on purpose just to get me going. Like last night he kept making this little high pitched noise that was getting one of our dogs really hyped up and and she was jumping all over the couch to get at him (which she isn’t supposed to be on). After a while it really started to annoy me, the noise he was making plus our big dog jumping all over the couch. I kept asking him to please stop and soon he was just hysterically laughing and in between the laughs he’d make the noise. He just kept going and going and going. Soon he tried to form words with this high pitched sound and it just drove me up the wall. He pretty much does these things to me every day. 😛
We most fight about social issues. Like… I want him to come with me to a party and he doesn’t want to go. He wants me to go with him to a football event and I don’t want to go, etc. We are awesome 1 on 1 but we don’t really like each others’ friends and it can cause issues. :/
I said “other”. we rarely argue, but when we do it’s usually a matter of communication styles. We’re both very blunt and honest, but that can also lead to hurt feelings…
I chose Domestic Issues because he’s never helping me clean the bathroom or bedroom. We sometimes have issues with money but we havent really argued in weeks. 😀
We argue about time mostly. He works a lot and sometimes I get frustrated and want to have a nice random evening with him every now and then. Our nights out always have to be planned and that frustrates me because I am a spur of the moment person!
We don’t argue…in fact, rarely. If we get into it, it’s cuz someone’s being sensitive or in a bad mood and it’s over in like, 5 minutes….pretty minor
This is kind of ridiculous, but I think we argue the most about skiing. Seriously. He LOVES to ski. Like, crazy, off-slope skiing in the Alps. He even made me promise early on in our relationship that all winter vacations would be there and never on some tropical island to take a break from the winter. And he really wants me to ski with him. I don’t ski. It freaks me out. I don’t like to go fast and I feel like the bunny slopes are steep! So, every winter (and really during the other seasons it will still come up) we have this discussion where he offers to teach me, his mom offers to teach me, his sister offers to teach me, etc. Lots of pressure. I’ve finally given in a little bit and have started taking a few hours of lessons while we’re in the mountains, but ugh, it’s such a big point of contention for us!
Right now as we work on joining finances and planning our retirement we argue about money most. He has a CVWL insurance policy I HATE but got before we knew each other. Now I’m saddled with it too. Boo! He’s friends with his advisor which I think is a bad idea (mixing friends and funds=bad idea) so we’re shopping around for a new one. He doesn’t like that I form these strong opinions when I’m not as “informed” as he is (double majored in business and finance with a nimor in accounting – I was a music major). Thankfully, we’re able to discuss things pretty rationally and calming…except when I tell him he’s WRONG!!!!!!! =)
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