(Closed) What do you bees think?

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: What do you think?
    Totally breaks the tradition - regardless of dress. : (13 votes)
    25 %
    The tradition applies more to seeing one another in the dress. : (36 votes)
    71 %
    Other - explain. : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    5885 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    It does break tradition, as traditionally, the bride and groom spend the night and morning before the wedding apart, and don’t see each other.

    But seriously, who cares about tradition? We’re spending the night before in the same hotel, and having dinner and drinks together, and haven’t ruled out spending the night together, then going our separate ways in the morning (I do want my dress, hair etc to be a suprise 🙂 )

    Do whatever you want 🙂

    Post # 4
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    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Me and my hubby saw eachother the morning of. No biggie. 

    Post # 5
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    808 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    whats a “first look shoot”?

    I think it’s a fine idea….If you all get together and get it done..it wil A: get done quickly and B: you get to set everything up the way you have thought it would look…

    🙂

    Post # 6
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    2694 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    If that i what you want, then go for it.  I don’t want fi to see me at all the monring of but that is our choice.

    Post # 7
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    2135 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think that the tradition is more for him not seeing you in your dress!

    Post # 9
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    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Mrs.C.to.bee:  What better way to start a marriage than with some good teamwork the morning of! I think it sounds like a great idea, even though technically it does break tradition (although so do first looks).

    Post # 10
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    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My FI has seen the dress already but the shoes are a big no go for me.

    I think you should do what you feel happiess with tradtional or not. For me, my FI can see me and the dress but not the shoes and maybe not the flowers, but deffently not the shoes.

    Post # 11
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    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @ barbie86 – We are doing the exact same thing. We are staying in a hotel room the night before together, waking up together, maybe setting up reception together, then parting our own ways and getting ready. He can NOT see my Dress until the moment I walk down the aisle. (Although I kind of want the 1st look shot now that people have mentioned it)!

    Our honeymoon will be held at our Brand new house (we have never lived together and are going to buy a house together RIGHT before the wedding…like a few weeks prior so we can start setting up the house so it is ready for the honeymoon so we will not be unpacking on our “honeymoon”).

    Post # 12
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    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am barely doing anything traditional EXCEPT I do not want to see FI until I walk down that aisle…the night before he will spend with his BM at his parents home and I will have my family with me….the next morning we do have to do a set up so I want to arrange that us girls go in early morning to decorate and then at a specific time he and his BM etc can go in and set up the sound system and do sound checks etc…I dont know why I want it this way but its something I feel quite strongly about..

    Post # 13
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    1928 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I dont think it’s a problem for you 2 to see each other, my concern is hte setting up at 6am part…. With everything going on, setting up the morning of seems like a really hectic plan, esp for the bridesmaids and yourself. Are there others who could do it besides the wedding party? Could you do it the day before?

    Post # 14
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    479 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    well I did first look photos to give us more time to relax and be around friends. So I don’t see anything wrong with it

    Post # 15
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    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Yeah, do what you want!

    H and I got ready together in the same hotel room.  I had my hair/makeup/slip/bra on.  Then he went outside to get photos.  I slipped my gown on and then met him for a first look. 

    He has seen the gown on a hanger, saw me all dolled up but never all of set up together.  And if he did see me all set up together, that’s no biggie too!

    My husband and I walked ito the ceremony space (an outdoor space) together arm in arm.  It’s actually a Swedish tradition for the B&G to do this.  So none of that “seeing her for the first time down the aisle” stuff for us.

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