MemberMy husband and I will be together 5 years but married 3 years in 2018. I thought about having a anniversary party but my husband says let’s do a vow renewal.Which I want it to be on our fifth wedding anniversary. I need help on figuring out what to do. Any advice?
MemberMemberStarting with the reasons why each of you wants what you want might be helpful.
Why does he want a vow renewal now instead of at the five year mark? Why do you want an anniversary party now and a vow renewal at the five year mark?
MemberWhy does he want a vow renewal? Do you need to renew your vows? I know they’re all the rage these days as kind of a second wedding, but I think that vow renewals should be reserved for times when vows actually need to be renewed (like you’ve gone through a hard time in your relationship), not just because you reached an anniversary.
Memberlsmitchell88 : I admit I tend to think of vow renewals, and even anniversary parties, for “larger” anniversaries in a marriage, like 20/25 years, even at least 10. Not for three years of marriage, or even five years “total” together. That for me is more about having a small celebration together.
I guess it all depends on what you want in an anniversary party or vow renewal, and what is calling you to do it. Have you had some difficult circumstances in your marriage and you feel you need to “renew your vows” to remind yourselves of thr commitments you made? Do you want to make new vows more in tune with what your marriage to be like going forward? Or do you just want a reason to get friends and family who have supported you together to celebrate and have a good time?
I also wonder why you are already thinking of this now – at this point you are still ahead of your second wedding anniversary!
Memberlsmitchell88 : 3 years seems really premature to have an anniversary party OR a vow renewal. Even 5 years does, but that’s better than 3. Did you elope and this will be your “wedding” or something like that?
MemberWe never had an actual wedding just got married at the courthouse.
Memberthen you could call it your ‘reception’ if you really wanted… call it what you like and people will come 🙂
MemberCall it a reception and toast each other with vows. A vow renewal and even an anniversary party is a bit much for the length of time you have been together and married.
If you call it a vow renewal or an anniversary party people will think its a gift grab or an attention grab.
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