(Closed) What do you call your FILs?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: What do you call your FILs?
    Mr. and Mrs. LastName : (18 votes)
    9 %
    First Names : (146 votes)
    72 %
    Mom, Dad, some other variation : (16 votes)
    8 %
    Other - explain : (22 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 62
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Although, I might add, that in my culture one usually calls inlaws “suegro” or “suegra” which means Father-In-Law or Mother-In-Law.

    Post # 63
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    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @ThingsThatShine:  it might seem more disrespectful, but my mom would shot my Fiance in the leg if he called her Mrs .Last Name… lol

    Post # 64
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    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    In front of my in-laws (his step mom, grandma, and siblings) I call them mom, grandma, and siters or brother. But when we’re alone I call them by their names except his step grandma, I love her to death. My husband calls my parents mom and dad tho my parents nor I expected him to.

    Post # 65
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    2542 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    At first I called them Mr and Mrs last name until one day I just asked them what they would like me to call them, and they said their first names so now that’s what I do.

    Post # 66
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    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    They introduced themselves to me by their first names, so that is what I call them.  I usually avoid addressing them by name, but if they wanted to be called Mr. and Mrs, or Mom and Dad, or anything else, they would have told me.  In fact, they usually tell all their kids friends “Stop calling me Mr./Mrs.!”  My Future Sister-In-Law calls them [husband’s name]’s mom/dad, and doesn’t address them by name ever, which is really awkward to me.

    If/when we have kids, I’ll call them by whatever grandparent names they prefer.

    Post # 67
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    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I can my Fiancee’s parents hislastname okaasan and otousan which is a variation of mom and dad in Japanese, while I call his “american parents” (these are the parents of his best friend who have known him since he was a baby as well, and he would always stay with them when he came to visit the states) by their first names.

    I think it is more common in the US to call only your parents by mom and dad and other peoples parents by either mr. and mrs. lastname or by their first name, but in Japan since these people are also a part of your family and considered to be close to you it would be disrespectful to call them anything but “mom” and “dad”

    Post # 68
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    380 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    My ex in laws wanted me to call them mom & dad, because I was like a daughter to them, supposedly.  I personally hated them & never called them that, I just used their 1st names. 

    This time around my FIL’s well I have known for forever. They have & always be called by their 1st names.  My Fiance doesnt even call his parents mom & dad. Even the grandkids use 1st names instead of gma & gpa.

    Post # 69
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I call my Future Mother-In-Law mom, mommy, mama.  Ever since I met her 🙂

    Post # 70
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    32 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Even after 3+ years, my fiance’s mom still says I can only refer to her as Mrs. May. She needs to get off her high horse because we’ll be sharing that name soon.

     

    Post # 71
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We both use first names, though I think I address my Mother-In-Law more often than my husband addresses my parents.  I would feel pretty uncomfortable calling anyone else Mom or Dad.  I guess Mr./Mrs. X would be my second choice, but that would feel awfully formal.

     

    Post # 72
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I call them by first name, just because my Mother-In-Law asked me to before I married Darling Husband and it just stuck. my mother wants me to call them Mom and Dad and I just think it’s too weird. what the hell would I call them when all four parents are together then?!

    Post # 73
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    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I use their first names.  I called them Mr. & Mrs. LastName for a long time, but eventually switched to their first names.  It actually wasn’t awkward at all to switch!  I do think that it would be weird to call them Mom & Dad, just not something I’d be comfortable doing.  I do call his Dad’s parents Pop and Grandmother, which is what he calls them.  Everyone does though, so it’s not awkward (at least I hope it’s not for them!)

    Post # 74
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    Newbee

    OMG i have such issues with this!! his mom and dad dont speak, and his mom doesnt have an identity of her own, so when i first introduced myself to her she didnt make it clear what i should call her, and then she started signing cards “your boyfriend’s mom!!!” i just call her by her first name because that what my bf does with my dad and stepdad.

     

    his dad has an american name and a greek name, i dont think ive ever called him anything…. oops.

     i’ve commiserated with my bfs bro in law, and he has the same problem!

    Post # 75
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I had alwasy called mine by their first names.  When we got engaged, I would say like “hey future father” or “hey future mom in law” which was fun and playful.  Now I mostly call them by their first names unless they say something sarcasticaly where i can joke and say “thanks mom”  but other then that I will call them by their first names 

    Post # 76
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I usually call them Mr. and Mrs. LastName… I refuse to call them mom and dad, so I will probably just call them by their first names after we get married since we will then be Mr. and Mrs. LastName.

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