(Closed) What do you call your in laws?

posted 3 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

waiting2bee:  “auntie” and “uncle” – it’s a cultural norm in Hawaii to pretty much call everyone either auntie or uncle, so that’s what I call hubby’s dad (uncle [name]), especially because I met the dad when hubby and I first started dating. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

waiting2bee:  Mom and Dad in English, because I call my parents “mom” and “dad” in my language so there is still a distinction. I like the distinction haha 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

waiting2bee:  I call his parents Mom/Dad because we are that comfortable with them, he calls my parents by their first names because they are a bit more “formal”

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I call them by their first names! But i think it depends on the culture and what people are comfortable with

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I am opposite. I don’t mind my Fiance calling my parents “Mom and Dad” but I would feel funny calling my in-laws that. I think it depends on how comfortable you are as other people said. I think I’m just going to call mine by their first names.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I call them by their first names. We met in high school so I used to call them Mr. and Mrs. (their last name) but that’s weird now that I’m an adult lol. So now I call them by their first names.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Me and my Fiance were just having this conversation the other day! We’re in the southern US and call each others parents by their first names but it does feel a little odd. We both agree that calling them mom and dad would be too weird though. My Brother-In-Law calls my mom, mom so it’s not unheard of here.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

waiting2bee:  We use their first names. I’m creeped out by the thought of Darling Husband and I calling the same person “mom” or “dad” – typically the only other person calling your parents that is a sibling, and you don’t marry your sibling….idk probably way overthink it but there is no way I would ever call my inlaws  mom or dad lol. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

waiting2bee:  Betty. I call her by her name. I can’t call someone who’s not my mom, “mom”.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

waiting2bee:  Hubby and I are both American but I am black and he is Italian. There’s a pretty big age gap between us, so his parents are closer in age to my grandmother. When we first got engaged, his mother said nothing would make her happier than for me to call her mom and Father-In-Law dad. I felt a little weird about it because I have my own parents, but I don’t call my mother mom so I was able to get past it. My brother and sister-in-law that were married in just call Mother-In-Law by her first name, and my husband does too half the time, but I feel weird about it and I’ve gotten used to calling her mom. My husband started calling my mother mom as soon as he met her for the first time, and she called him her future son in law from the jump lol I’m glad it worked out so well. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

By their first names.. They aren’t my parents. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

waiting2bee:  I call mine by their first names, as does my husband with my parents.  Neither set has asked us to do differently and it’s not a cultural thing for us.  My mother used to call my dad’s mom “mom” but I think that was more for our benefit or because she was going senile.  Dad never called her parents anything but first name.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My husband calls my parents by their first names. I call his parents tito and tita which means aunt and uncle in Tagalog (everyone is called that in their culture). 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

I called my fiance’s mom and dad by their names when I started talking to them on the phone for the first time, but told me to call them by mom and dad after a while. It changed greatly after the proposal. They started calling me daughter. 🙂 

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