What do you call your in-laws?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I just call them by their first names-it’s weird at first, I felt the same, but we’re all adults. I have my own parents, don’t need another set to call mom and dad.

Post # 3
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

For future Mother-In-Law I call by her name or sometimes Mama (she started this by signing off a card “mama ___ “
As for future Father-In-Law, we aren’t as close so usually his name. 

Most of my married friends call their in laws by their names, seldom do I hear “mom/dad” and I can see where that’s uncomfortable! I can’t see myself doing that quite yet!

Post # 4
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

kiram :  Early on in our relationship I always called them Mr. and Mrs. So and So. It wasn’t until two years into our relationship and after we were engaged that I began calling them by their first names. At first it was strange, but now it’s no big deal. I would feel strange still calling them Mr. and Mrs. now that were married. I doubt I’ll ever call them Mom and Dad, though my parents call their in-laws Mom and Dad too and have told my Darling Husband he can call them that if he wants…he never will Haha I’d say call them by their first names!

Post # 5
1552 posts
Bumble bee

Ive always called mine by their first names so I continued to do that after marriage. Ive never heard anyone call their in-laws or bf/gfs parents by anything else in the UK, everyone just uses first names. Mom/dad feels childish to me because we are all adults and ‘Mr and mrs’ feels like a power play i.e what you call a teacher in school. 

Post # 7
7022 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Their first names. 

My mom calls them by their first names, but my FIs parents called them mom/dad (passed away now). It makes me uncomfortable thinking about calling them mom/dad lol. 

Post # 8
1196 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’ve always called them by their first name, and will continue to.  I only have 1 Mom and Dad.  I know that’s traditional in some families but it’s not my thing. 

Post # 9
14979 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

haha. I just avoid calling them anything.  I rarely find the need to actually address them or do anythign but look in their direction and start talking to them.  If I’m talking to one about the other, then I use their first name.

Post # 10
1841 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I call my future mother in law “sama yaay” and my future father in law “mon père”, which mean “my mother” and “my father” in the languages I use to speak to them.

I would feel much less comfortable calling them mum or dad in English though. But because it’s not my first language, there’s less of an emotional connection to the words.

Post # 11
9855 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I call them by thier first names though I’m rarely in a position where I have to address them as anything.

Post # 12
4534 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

kiram :  To their face or behind their back!?? 😂😂😂

I’m just joking….

I like my in-laws! I call them by their first names. Husband calls my parents by their first names too. It would personally feel weird calling them Mum and Dad… 

Post # 13
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Ballroom

I grew up with my parents calling their in-laws by their first names, as did all of my close relatives. My in laws would LOVE IT if I called them “mom” and “dad”, but I am not even a little bit comfortable with that. I adore them, but I already have a Mom and Dad, so I call them by their first names. My husband calls my parents by their first names, too. I honestly can’t envision ever calling them anything else. 

Post # 14
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My in laws are Chinese and it’s expected I call them mom and dad or it’d be majorly disrespectful. Yeahhhhhh not happening. 5+ years in and I’ve managed to never call them anything 

Post # 15
6462 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I call mine by their names or by nicknames or by what my kid calls them if I’m talking to him.

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