What do you call your in-laws?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 16
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

By their first names. I don’t think they’d ever want me to call them something different. My parents are the same way with Fiance. 

Post # 17
1357 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

kiram :  I started calling them Mr and Mrs “Name” (they are divorced and both remarried) but when they all told me to call them by their first names I do, for the most part. I am from the south, and was raised you always call adults Mr and Mrs/Ms/Miss no matter what, so sometimes it is strange to me. I will never call his grandfather anything but Mr “Name” because they all told me to call him Pop, what everyone calls him, but I am not comfortable with that, because we are not close like that, and I will NEVER call him by his first name. 


My Fiance has always called my parents by their first names because, although he was raised in the south, he was raised by his grandparents who are from MO and CA, which are areas (I am told) that view the whole Mr/Ms/Mrs/Miss thing differently.

Post # 18
3262 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I call them by their first names unless my daughter is around then it’s Grammy and Gramps.

Post # 19
2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

 I’ve never actually had to address Darling Husband mom by name (dad died). I’m not really around her anyway but the times I have been there’s never been a time that I’ve had to call her by name which is strange now that I think about it. In my family we all have tons of nicknames and I actually call my mom and dad different names than their real name and other than mom dad so Darling Husband calls them what I call them. Their nicknames have nothing to do with their real names either we’re just weird but it works. If they have nicknames maybe you can use those. 

Post # 20
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I guess I’m an odd one out, but I call my in-laws mom/dad, as does pretty much all of my family to their respective in-laws.  I think it’s a bit different though, because I see them on nearly a weekly basis.  My FH on the other hand calls my mother “mom” and my father by his name. 

Post # 21
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I had that dilemma too. I wanted to call them mom/dad, but Mother-In-Law signs their correspondence with their first names. They’ve said they have no preference, but it’s so awkward! After two years of marriage, I finally started calling Father-In-Law “Papa [First Name],” and I still need a name for Mother-In-Law. Still awkward! Fortunately, they still tolerate me. 

Post # 22
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Sauk Valley Resort

I call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name, but I’ll sometimes call her Mom in front of Fiance if we’re both trying to get her attention. I called my FI’s father by his first name before he passed away. My Fiance doesn’t call my parents by any name, he says every option feels awkward lol

Post # 23
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Just like I did since we met; by their first names. Not weird at all.

Post # 24
1271 posts
Bumble bee

I call my in-laws Mr. Hislastname and Mrs. Herlastname because I don’t want to call them dad/mom and calling them by their first names feels rude.

Post # 25
3040 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Mẹ and Ba.

Mother/Father in vietnamese.

Post # 26
834 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

kiram :  I call them by their first names. Just like when I speak to any other adult. I met them as an adu6lt and I’m going to address them in kind. 

I have one mom and dad. 


Heck I don’t even tack on a Ms. or Mr. Unless the person is well into their 80’s. You know like the really old lady at every church who has only ever been called Ms. Dolly by the entirety of the world. Those people get the Ms. And Mr. 

Post # 27
11481 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

kiram :  When addressing them, we both call our in-laws Mom and Dad. However, when I’m mentioning DH’s parents to my own parents, I will refer to them by their first names, since that is what my parents call them. When I am talking to my DH’s siblings, I refer to their parents/my in-laws as Mom and Dad.




Post # 28
13754 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I call them by their names.  I already have parents so I’d never call them mom/dad.

Post # 29
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My FI’s parents are divorced and remarried, so it’s dad and her first name and mom and his first name. When I’m not getting along with them, it’s just first names across the board. 

Post # 30
178 posts
Blushing bee

This post would be even more interesting, if people started to add how often they see (and know) their in-laws.  In My Humble Opinion there’s a difference between calling you Mother-In-Law ‘mom’ and seeing her once every few years or every day for a few years.


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