What do you call your in-laws?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 31
1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I call them their first names. I have for as long as I have been with my fiance. He calls my parents by their first names as well. I don’t think either of us will ever call them “mom or dad”. 

Post # 32
5035 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Op, what had you called them prior to marriage?  I call my future inlaws by their first names and I don’t imagine that will change after marriage.

Post # 33
432 posts
Helper bee

I call my in-laws by their names. They are not my parents. My Mother-In-Law tries to get me to call her mama but I can’t stand her so……….nope.

Post # 34
1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I call mine by their first names. I think my Mother-In-Law would like for me to call her mom, but I don’t see that ever happening. Her sons both call her by her first name way more often than they call her mom, and if her own kids don’t call her that, I’m sure as heck not going to. 

In contrast, Darling Husband usually calls my mom “Granny,” which pretty much everyone in my family has since my sister was pregnant with her first grand baby a few years ago. Darling Husband calls my dad by his first name. 

For most of our relationship, we lived in the same state as my family and usually saw my parents at least once a month. My parents would come stay the night and help us with projects around the house pretty often too. His parents live a plane ride away so we usually spend a week with them once a year. 

Post # 35
180 posts
Blushing bee

Future Mother-In-Law is by her first name…Future Father-In-Law is just “DOC” (hes a retired DR…). 

One time i called Future Father-In-Law by his nickname of his first name and my SO’s mother laughed at me… I never did it again.


EDIT: I see them every weekend during the winter months.

Post # 36
2525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

They aren’t techincally my in laws yet but I call FI’s parents by their first names. And I don’t plan to change that. 

Post # 37
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Currently engaged, at the moment I use their first names as this is what my FI’s brother’s girlfriend used (they’ve been dating longer than my Fiance and I).

It’s a bit easier on the mother’s side as the local word for mother is “mam” but I grew up elsewhere and use “mum”. So we can distinguish by mum/mam. His mother uses mam/dad for her MIL/FIL and I suspect she would love it if I started calling her mam. 

On the father’s side it’s more awkward as they’re both dad so Im not quite sold yet! I don’t mind using mam but using dad feels a bit insincere to my own dad! Maybe we’ll just have kids quickly so I can just call them nanna and grandad 😂

Post # 38
14 posts

I call them by their first names. I don’t know if they’d like for me to call them mom and dad, but I wouldn’t be comfortable with that.

Post # 39
2671 posts
Sugar bee

kiram :  I call them by their first names and will continue to do so. He calls mine by their first names. FI’s brother’s wife calls them by their first names, etc. My parents call the in-laws by their first names too….I never grew up hearing them be called mom and dad by the opposite person.

I’m kind of weird in that when I get introduced to someone by a name, I tend to not call them by anything else. For example in middle school I got introduced to a new friend as “Mary” which is her real name. Her family and other friends who knew her from elementary school called her by her nickname, which is “Murphy”, and she stated I could call her that too if I wanted. To this day, I still call her Mary. I was introduced to my fiance by Tim even though his full real name is Timothy but calling him Timothy feels weird to me, and he prefers Tim anyways. 

Post # 40
1638 posts
Bumble bee

I awkwardly have avoided addressing any of my friends parents by name most of my life, including my in-laws. 

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