Post # 1
Quick question: What do you call your in-laws or soon to be in-laws? Do you call them mom or dad vs. Mr. or Mrs? I’m having a hard time calling my future in-laws mom and dad. It just doesn’t seem natural to me. Let me know what you think.
Post # 3
@Charlies_Angel: I continue to call them by their first names as I always have.
Mother-In-Law suggest/asked if I’d like to call her a whole host of things as well as mom. When we first meet she introduced herself by her full first name so I’ve always called her that. For me I was raised by one mother so she is mom and I’d feel downright weird calling my Mother-In-Law mom even though we have a relatively good relationship. I’m not a fan of nicknames either which were many of the suggestions given so I just said I’d prefer to call her by her name as I always have done. Though I may invent a nickname in the future, I do a few in jokes that I’m sure will provide the inspiration 😉
Post # 4
I’ve called them by their first names since the day we met. I would never, ever call them mom and dad because they’re not my parents. I also think that would be a huge slap in the face to my mom who actually raised me. As for Mr. and Mrs., that’s far too stuffy for my taste. I don’t think I could marry into a family that required such formalities since that’s the total opposite of my family and what I’m used to. We wouldn’t get along.
Post # 5
@cowgirlboots: I feel the exact same way. It just doesn’t seem right calling them mom and dad especially since my dad is deceased. Maybe later I will feel differently but right now I can’t seem to bring my self to do it.
Post # 6
I just call them by their first names
Post # 7
Since Future Father-In-Law lives four hours away, we don’t seem him often. I don’t talk to him unless it’s in person when we visit (there’s no phone calls or e-mails between us) and since we’re in constant contact when we visit, I never need to address him. Plus, we don’t really speak unless needed. When Fiance introduced me to his parents, he said, “This is my Mom. This is my Dad.” So I never got a feel for what they preferred and they never told me. I’m sure if FI’s Mom were still alive, this would’ve been addressed by now, but Future Father-In-Law barely says my name and is known to “forget” it.
But I can tell you that no way in heck am I calling Future Father-In-Law “Dad”! He’s far from any parental figure to me.
Post # 8
“Other Mommy” for Future Mother-In-Law. (soo mature)
Future Father-In-Law gets called his name.
Post # 9
I call them mom and dad. They treat me like I’m one of their children and I don’t think my parents mind at all. I grew up hearing my mother call my father’s mom “ma” and I always liked that.
Post # 10
i refrain from addressing them at all, haha.
i’d like to do first names, but they haven’t told me i could do so yet, and it seems so silly saying mr. and mrs. X, because i will be mrs. x myself in less than 3 months!
Post # 11
I call them by their first names. I don’t think they would object if I called them mom or dad but it’s kind of weird for me plus my FI’s parents never married, but his dad is now married to someone else…so I have multiple MIL’s. His dad has started calling me “daughter” recently, which I find funny but endearing.
Post # 12
I think Mother-In-Law would prefer I call her “mom” – but I usually call her by her first name. In cards, I’ll usually put “mom” if we are both signing it. If I’m writing her a note, I’ll use her first name. FIL is out of the picture, but I’d probably do the same with him.
Darling Husband calls my mom “MOM’ – and she still isn’t used to it (her other SIL’s/DIL’s call her by her first name) – or, ‘grandma’.
My advice is to see what sounds natural to you (assuming your in-laws don’t have a preference they’ve made known)
Post # 13
My Fiance has taken with calling my mom Mother-In-Law (like phil) for mommy in law. At first I’m not sure she liked it but I think she has taken to it especially since my Fiance mom died shortly after us getting together.
I don’t have a Mother-In-Law or Father-In-Law and I call his brothers by their names. I thought it kind of rocked that his nephew called me aunt Daisy though.
Post # 14
I’m slowly transitioning from Mr.G and Mrs.G to Mama G and Poppa G haha.
Post # 15
First names. I love them both dearly, but would never be comfortable calling them Mom and Dad – I’m glad they aren’t that type, either.
Post # 16
I call them Mom and Dad, because that’s what their other DIL calls them, and it would have hurt their feelings if they didn’t.
It felt unnatural to me at first, but I’m more used to it now.