What do you call your in laws? POLL

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What do you call your in laws?
    Their first name : (225 votes)
    90 %
    Mom/dad : (25 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 2
    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I can then by their first name…. When we got together they said please call us by our names, don’t feel awkward!

    Post # 3
    9690 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I call them by thier first names.

    My Father-In-Law actually asked me to call him dad after the wedding but I told him no. I have parents and while I like my in-laws they are not my parents and I don’t feel comfortable calling them mom and dad. 

    My Darling Husband also calls my parents by thier first names.

    Post # 4
    3050 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Ba and mẹ.

    Dad and mom. Culturally it goes along with titles so calling them their first names would be seen as disrespectful in their family. There is a term that would follow to specify the “in law” part I believe but I just use the above as it was what I was taught lol. Same goes for everyone older in not really using their names. For an aunt, I would use the title aunt but never their name but if two aunts are present then I would use the title for aunt followed by their name. Also gets more confusing with maternal or paternal sides.

    Post # 5
    1990 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    First names. If we get a card then the card or email then both sets of parents sign it “mum and dad” but to cards or emails for one of us from the in-laws, they sign it with first names.

    I wouldn’t feel comfortable calling his parents mum and dad – particularly as I don’t refer to my step-mum as mum. I think it would be disrespectful to my parents and step mum (especially when she’s been a parent to me 20 years longer than my in laws have).

    Post # 6
    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Mom and Dad. My fiancé calls my mother mom as well. He calls my father by his first name but my father and I have a strained relationship (my parents are divorced)

    Post # 7
    819 posts
    Busy bee

    My fiance and I call each others’ parents by their first names, but his sister in law calls his parents mom and dad.

    Post # 8
    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We call them by their first names, but I call his grandma – grandma “first name” 

    Post # 9
    9588 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I called Mother-In-Law “mom” right before she went in to surgery shortly after the wedding because I knew it’d make her happy.  I didn’t do it casually.. it was like “mom” wink wink yay isnt it fun we can do that now?  Aside from that moment, I haven’t done it again.  

    I call my BFF’s mom “mumma” and her dad “tata” so it’s not like my brain can’t handle it.  But to me mom/dad are people you feel comfortable being yourself around.. I’m not there with my in laws.

    Post # 10
    5112 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I kind of avoid calling them anything, TBH. If I do call them something, it would be their first names. 

    Like a PP, I have a step dad that is essentially my father, but I’ve never been able to get into the habit of calling him Dad. It would feel like a slap in the face to my step dad to start calling Father-In-Law “Dad”. 

    Darling Husband calls my mother Mama, he calls my step dad by his first name like I do. 

    Post # 11
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee

    emsie :  I call Father-In-Law by his name. Mother-In-Law is passed away.

    Post # 12
    47189 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Before they passed away, I called them Mom Jones and Dad Jones. It was something I could feel comfortable with. I was raised that you didn’t call elders by their first names, and Mom or Dad on their own was too personal.

    Post # 13
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I’m still engaged so they’re not technically my ILs yet, but I’ve been completely avoiding calling them anything because I don’t know what to call them!  His mom asked me to call her either by her first name or mom, just don’t call her Mrs. ___.  Which is what I’ve been calling her up to that point, because she was my boyfriend’s mom and I felt it was most respectful and comfortable.  But now that I’m part of the family I can’t.  So I don’t know what to do!!  

    Post # 14
    1725 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I call my in-laws by their first names. Darling Husband calls my mom “granny” most of the time and my dad by his first name. It’s sort of weird that he calls my mom that, especially since we don’t have kids. But pretty much everyone started calling my mom Granny almost as soon as my sister announced her pregnancy with the first grandbaby. 

    Post # 15
    787 posts
    Busy bee

    I use both mom & dad & their first names. Most of the time I call them by their first names but when we are saying good byes & love you I’ll call them mom & dad. I’m super close to my parents so that has nothing to do with it. 

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