Post # 31
pnwlove : Would call them aunt/uncle be a suitable compromise?
Normally I say the local language equivalent of “my mother” or “my father”. Calling them “mum” or “dad” is a bit more than I can cope with and calling them their first names would definitely be inappropriate culturally. This works in the local language, but if we spoke English I can’t see myself using it as a solution.
We’re still figuring out what my Fiance should call my parents, where first names seem inappropriate to him but anything else seems weird to them.
Post # 32
I call them by their first names names if I ever need to get their attention but it rarely ever comes up.
They’re not my Mom or Dad so I would never say that.
All my grandparents are dead so when referring to my husband’s grandparents they have just become Nana and Pop and Gran.
Post # 33
I call them by their names. I could never call anybody ‘mum’ or ‘dad’ apart from my parents.
I’m surprised how many people on here address their inlaws in that way. In the UK that would be pretty much unheard of apart from in Asian (as in Indian/Pakistani) families.
Post # 34
In the Chinese culture, it’s extremely rude to call in-laws by their first names. My mother was very upset when my new brother-in-law called her by her first name instead of “ma” after my sister’s wedding.
I’ve already let my Fiance know that he is expected to call my mother “ma” after we are married. My dad apparently came from “a family with no manners or rules”, according to my mother, and he doesn’t care about these things.
To this day I don’t really know the names of all my aunts, uncles, etcetera, because I call them, fourth aunt, second aunt, and other “title -relation”. It’s not appropriate to call them by their names.
Post # 35
I call them by their first names… I do call his grandma Nan, instead of her first name.
Post # 36
I use their first names. I’ve never called anyone (i.e. step-parents) by mom and dad. For me that’s reserved for my bio-mom and dad. But that’s a personal thing.
My FH calls my parents by their first names as well.
Post # 37
By their names, I would never call anyone else mum and dad. I’ve never heard of someone doing that and heonestly, it’s kind of weird to me.
Post # 38
Before engagement I called Future Mother-In-Law “ma’am”. Now it’s either “ma’am” or “Mama First Name”. Feels natural to me.
Post # 39
I would never call anyone mom and dad unless it was my biological parent.
Post # 40
DH’s parents told me to call them by their first names so that’s what I do. He also calls my parents by their first names too.
Post # 41
Darling Husband and I call our in-laws by their first names. I don’t even call my Step Dad “Dad”, he’s still First Name and I’ve known him basically all my life.
Post # 42
ddsbride : They’re not my official in-laws yet, but same here! I call his “mawmaw,” mawmaw, her first name. His parents I call Mr. and Ms. first name. I’m southern though, so we put Mr. and Ms. in front of everyone’s first name.
Post # 43
I call them by their first names. I already have parents 🙂
Post # 44
I use Mimmy and Diddy which is an affectionate name Darling Husband and I have them long before the marriage. Ill also use their names here and there.
Post # 45
I’ve been instructed to call my bf’s parents “auntie” and “uncle”, however it just feels so awkward to me because I barely know them, so I end up just avoiding calling them anything.