Post # 46
I really try to avoid calling them anything if I can help it. My fiancé started calling my parents by their first names as soon as he met them, and my mom was quite taken aback. I was never raised to call my elders by their first names. We always used Mr. and Mrs.
Post # 47
I call them by their first names or their nicknames. My fiance calls my mom “(city we live in) Mama” sometimes as a joke, because he’s not from my hometown. But usually just calls her by her first name.
Post # 48
beestronium : What if he is uncomfortable calling them that? Hopefully he isn’t. My Fiance is Thai, and I refuse to call his parents any version of mom and dad. I don’t think his culture should outrank mine and force me to to call them something I am completely uncomfortable with.
Post # 49
I call them Miss [First Name] and Mr [First Name]. I lived in Louisiana and my husband’s family is from Mississippi and that is how everyone addresses one another, especially if there is a generational gap, in the South. And even if you’re 18 years old and never married or 85 years old and have been married for 60 years, it’s Miss [First Name] for addressing a female.
Post # 50
They’re both deceased but when I talk about them his mom is first name and his dad is a nickname based on last name that everyone who knew him called him.
My dad passed away 4 years ago but Darling Husband knew my dad before I was even born and always called him by his first name. He calls my mom and stepdad by first names. I call my stepdad Pop because that’s what his grandkids call him, if I’m talking about him it’s first name. I’ve known stepdad since i was a baby and I was 16 when tbey married, I called him Mr Last Name for 6 months before anyone noticed.
Post # 51
pnwlove : We’re both really tolerant of each other’s culture. My culture is very different from my parent’s culture, but I’m doing some things to pay respect/appease them.
For example, I dislike red, but Fiance suggested we have a red and white colour wedding because red is important in Chinese culture.
FI’s family is religious and I’m not, but I attend church events even when they make me uncomfortable sometimes.
I won’t force Fiance to call my mother “ma” of course, he could just avoid needing to address her. He just knows not to call her by her name.
We never force one another into doing things, but we both do things that make us uncomfortable sometimes in order to keep the peace. It works well for us.