Post # 1
The only posts I could find were 3+ years old so I thought I would ask everyone now.
Out of curiosity, what do you call your MIL/FMIL & FIL/FFIL?
My FH and I dated for 10 years before recently getting engaged. We met when I was in high school so I’ve never called Future Mother-In-Law & Future Father-In-Law by their first names, just Mr. & Mrs. ____. Future Mother-In-Law recently told me to start calling her “mom”. I’m not opposed to it but after 10+ years of Mrs. ____, the thought of calling her mom is awkward. I’m sure I’ll either end up avoiding addressing them altogether or getting used to calling them mom & dad.
Post # 2
Fiance and I were also together in school so for a long time I avoided calling them anything really but I call them by their first name now I’m older and more comfortable within the family. I would never call them mum and dad because that seems weird to me.
I do call my FI’s nan (grandma) just ‘nan’ though without using her first name or ‘his nan..’ or ‘your nan..’ when I’m talking about her to Fiance or other people. I guess that’s the same as calling your Mother-In-Law ‘mom’. Mr and Mrs __ seems so formal.
Post # 3
I’d never call my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law mum and dad…that’s weird to me. I call them by their first names. Sometimes refering to them as ‘mam’ and ‘dad’ as they’re mauritian and everyone (family friends etc) who know them call them that…kind of like a nickname…not sure why.
Post # 4
I call his dad by first first name, but call his nana, nana 🙂
He’s always called my mum by her first name too.
Post # 5
I call them by their first names.
Actually I asked my mom if she wanted DH to start calling her “mom.” She made a face and said “That’s weird! Just tell him to call me by my first name.” Haha!
Post # 6
I’m sure DH’s dad wouldn’t find it weird if I called him Dad. In fact, he just gave me a birthday card and signed it “Dad/His first name”. I would feel kind of awkward calling him Dad though.
I pretty much avoid calling him anything other than “Grandpa” because we have a 16 month old. It kind of makes things easier haha.
Post # 7
Call my inLaws Mum/Dad. Have an extremely close and great relationship with them though. DH does the same to my parents too.
Post # 8
Father-In-Law passed away 6 months before we were married. He was a darling and I’m sure I would have grown to love him.
On the other hand, Mother-In-Law was a queen b—-, from day one. I wrote her out of my life years ago, and it was a very healthy thing to do. I never called her anything. Once we had kids, I referred to her by the same name my children used. It’s sad that some people are so self-centered and toxic, but she gets what she gives.
Post # 9
My sister and Brother-In-Law are high school sweethearts and have now been together for over 15 years. My Brother-In-Law still calls my mom and dad ms. And mr. Last name and my sister calls his parents by their first names (but this only started recently) for the same reasons of it just being habit. My mom always tells him to just call her by her first name but he doesnt haha. I call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name and my Future Father-In-Law mr. And last name. This is only because my Fiance and Future Father-In-Law have the same name so it was always easier for me to do this in the beginning to distinguish who im talking to or about (if that makes sense haha).
Post # 10
We’re not married yet but I already call them “mum and dad” and my OH calls my mother “mum” and my grandmother “grandma” (and he says them both in my native language – he’s such a sweetheart).
I’m one of those people who believe that once you marry into a family, you become a part of that family. Both of our sides have been so loving and welcoming to us both and I love it. I know that IF it ever comes down to it, his family will take care of me like their own daughter and my family will take care of him like their own son.
Post # 11
Oh man, it’s nice to see all the “avoid calling them anything” votes in the poll! I thought I was the only one who did that! DH’s two BILs call his parents Mom and Dad, so I think I’m supposed to, and I may have once or twice when I really needed to get their attention. But in general, I keep avoiding it!
It’s especially weird because in Asian culture, you refer to older people you are close to as Uncle and Aunty. I always called them Uncle and Aunty, but then we got married and now.. Mom and Dad doesn’t sound right yet, and I just feel weird calling them anything else. I need to get over it, I suppose! But at least I’m not alone in this boat.
Post # 12
Our entire family calls them Prima and Papa. Yes, we all know Prima is Spanish for “cousin”, and none of us are Spanish speakers. Lol.
Post # 14
For awhile, I think both my DH and I avoided calling each other’s parents anything (while we were dating). Now, we use their first names. We each already have a mom and dad, it would feel weird to call anyone else mom and dad. I also think that’s a more old-fashioned practice – my oldest brother does that with his wife’s family, but they’re very traditional and he’s 12 years older than me.
Post # 15
I call his parents by their first names, and he calls mine by their first names. He does call my grandma “nan” like the rest of us do.