(Closed) What do you call your MIL?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

By her first name. If you’re getting married you’re an adult – you can call other adults by their first names.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I try to avoid calling them anything.  I’d have no problem calling them by their first names if they asked me to, but they never have.  Future Father-In-Law signs e-mails as “Mr. Smith.”  I feel awkward calling another adult “Mr.” unless they are my grandparents’ generation, or it is a professional setting.  So I try to avoid it… although I can manage after a few glasses of wine 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOL I was in the same situation.  What I did was call her Mrs. LastName until one day she complained that she’d rather be called by her first name, and at that point I officially had “permission” to call her by her first name.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I call my Mother-In-Law by her first name. I think she would like it if I called her Mom, but thta’s just not happening!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I call her Mom but if I’m talking to someone who would assume I meant my own mom, I’ll call her by her first name.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I call them, my future in-laws,  by their first names but I think it’s easier for me than most people. I grew up calling all adults by their first names, never Aunt Jane or Uncle Bob. I even went to a high school where the teachers went by first names. Also, if she says you should call her by her first name, just go by that. You’ll get used to it eventually. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I call her by her first name.  The very first time I met her I said, “Very nice to meet you Mrs….” and she said just call me by my first name!  It was hard to get used to but as I got closer to the family it got easier.  Now its something I don’t even think about.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I call her by her first name, but for at least 1.5 years, I avoided calling her anything at all, just to avoid having to use a name!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I call her by her first name. Agree with another poster- if you are getting married you are considered an adult which means that other adults, including your Mother-In-Law, are your equals.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I call her by her first name and once I slipped and called her mom. It totally caught me by surprise, I’m not sure if she noticed, LOL!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I call my Mother-In-Law by her first name.  She asked me to call her by her first name so thats what i do.  My husband calls my mother “Mom” though, as that is what she requested he call her.  so its all about preference

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I call them both by their first name.  I, too, was raised to address “adults” by Mr. or Mrs. LastName.  But, they’re your in laws, it think you’re past that formality at this point.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I don’t think most people in that generation want to be called by “Mrs. Blah”. Maybe grandparents but I think you’d be fine to call her by her first. i call my Future Mother-In-Law & Future Father-In-Law by their first name. Now, my Fiance grandparents are a different story. I have NO idea what to call them and have also tried to avoid calling them anything. I think grandparents are hard. There is calling them by their last name, or their first name or calling them what your Fiance calls them. My Fiance calls then NaNa and Papa, I would feel weird calling them that. Hmmm, I don’t know. My grandma is easy because EVERYONE calls her Granny, no one at all uses any of her real names … lol.

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