(Closed) What do you call your MIL?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with everyone else, call her by her first name! You’re an adult too now, just like rachelss said. It is awkward, and I mostly just avoid actually having to address my Future Mother-In-Law. But if I have to, I use her first name 🙂

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Firstname or nickname/short form of her first name is how I address my Future Mother-In-Law. Every now and then I slip and call her mum, which is big because I call my mother ‘Mother’ or by her first name.

It may be a tad awkward, but you’ll get used to it once you make a decision.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

I too was raised to call all adults by Mr./Mrs./Miss. My in-laws want me to call them by their first names so I do sometimes. Other times I just try to avoid addressing them. Stupid I know, but it is hard to start doing something you were taught not to do. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I JUST started calling her by her first name because I had the same awkward problem of calling her Mrs. L for so long. But in a card she wrote that it would be ok if I called them mom and dad. So I call them by their first names – I am working up to it.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I dont really call her anything but IF I needed to I call her by her first name. I NEVER call anyone by titles I think it is very outdated.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I also address mine by her first name! Or sometimes the occassional “mom”

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I call mine Mummyji because she’s Indian. “Ji” is a sign of respect added to the end of mummy. It’s hard getting used to because it’s not an American name for mom or mommy or whatever. I’m sure eventually I’ll get more used to it. No first names allowed in Indian culture so I’m fine with it. If my hubby was American I would probably call the mother-in-law by first name, not mom (unless she requested I use mom). So this is simply a cultural thing…

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I have been on a first name basis with the Future In-Laws since I met them! Yay for me I am marrying into an awesome and laid back family!!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I call my inlaws by their first names.  I am sure they would love if I called them mom and dad but I just dont want to! I already have a mom and dad ya know?

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

First name. I have a mom already, and Mrs. soandso is too formal.  I don’t think she would like it if I called her Mrs. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

I call her by her first name.

Post # 28
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

First name. She said “Ms S” made her feel old and laughed at me when i called her that. We’re all family, i can call her by her first name. I think it’s weird to not….i’m not a child addressing an adult anymore. Even her parents/DH’s grandparents want to be called by their first names. It just feels…more welcoming I guess

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Well ,my parents are Nigerian and Future Mother-In-Law is half Chinese, half Japanese so first name will not fly. Plus I would feel incredibly rude saying that. I just call her Mrs LastName for now.

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Her first name. I’d feel weird calling his parents “mom” and “dad.”

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

CRAZY….  HaHa no i call her by her first name. 

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