What do you call your SO when you're not quite engaged yet?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
7633 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t see the need for different names other than bf/gf just cause you’re on the verge of engagement…but do whatever feels right to you. Partner is certainly a fine option. We just called each other bf/gf until we got engaged (after a little over a year of dating), and then switched to fiance, and then husband/wife. I wouldn’t over think it!

Congrats on your impending engagement!

Post # 17
5469 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Partner, other half, my sweetie/cutie. I wouls skip boyfriend at this age, and agree with PP pre-engaged is criiiiinge.

Post # 18
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I never felt comfortable calling my honey my boyfriend. It never felt right. He’s always been my partner. It’s exactly what he is: my partner.

Post # 19
10012 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I switched between partner and boyfriend. I never really minded calling him my boyfriend (and we dated for 7 years before getting engaged!), I don’t get what is juvenile about it. Sure most high school boyfriends/girlfriends aren’t serious but there are boyfriends/girlfriends that aren’t serious in your 20s or 30s or whenever too. All it means is that a couple is dating and not engaged or married yet. 

Post # 20
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We were boyfriend and girlfriend until the day the ring was on my finger. I don’t really see the need to complicate things. 🤷‍♀️ 

Post # 21
1191 posts
Bumble bee

I said “boyfriend” or “partner” depending on the context, until I was married. I hate the term fiancé! xo

Post # 23
113 posts
Blushing bee

Boyfriend seems more appropriate in this instance, especially if you don’t live together, share assets etc.

I used boyfriend until 2 years in, partner when we started living together and sharing assets, and now partner/fiance depending on the situation. He often calls me future wife cool or simply fiance.

Post # 24
5238 posts
Bee Keeper

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revmcleod2 :  partner or significant other are both acceptable. 

Post # 25
1485 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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revmcleod2 :  I find the word ‘partner’ is the most socially adaptive language to use in modern day society. 

Post # 26
339 posts
Helper bee

I don’t see the need for a different term… you aren’t engaged yet? but I would say partner if you don’t think boyfriend/girlfriend sounds serious enough

Post # 27
5887 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

You’re boyfriend and girlfriend.  In work settings I used the phrase “partner” in the past as we had been together for 7+ years and owned a house together, so in light conversation with older co workers I didn’t want them to assume I was referencing some fling since we weren’t married, but I would just use the term Boyfriend or Best Friend to friends and family. 

Post # 28
2231 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Before we were engaged, and then married, I called my boyfriend my boyfriend. That’s what he was. I don’t see how boyfriend is juvenile now just because you’ve looked at rings? It wasn’t juvenile a few months ago, so it shouldn’t be now.

I understand the excitement, I do. I was in the same position when we had picked out a ring and I was waiting for it to come in. But to be honest, I think people will find it more juvenile if you try to call him something to establish an in-between name to go before Fiance.

Post # 29
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My husband used girlfriend until the day we got married.

I didn’t really like partner, so I used boyfriend mostly, and significant other sometimes.

I knew one person who used man-friend which I thought was silly.

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