(Closed) what do you consider a “big” wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: how many people were invited to your wedding?
    under 100 : (43 votes)
    14 %
    100-200 : (92 votes)
    31 %
    200-300 : (131 votes)
    44 %
    300+ : (31 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 62
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We’re having about 35 people at our wedding and I’m starting to think that’s going to be big. But in all actuality, where I’m from and in my circle having around 100 people is considered big. I think 100 guests is pretty big, but I wanted a courthouse wedding to avoid a lot of people.

    Post # 63
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @jieters:  We’re going to have 450 guests but we’re going to invite about 500 or so.

    Post # 64
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I used to think 300+ is big.  Now I think 150+ is big.  My brother’ wedding has more than a thousand guests (most of them are from bride’s side)!

    Post # 65
    1 posts
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think under 75 is small, 75-150 is average, 150+ is big, and 250+ is really big!  However, whenever I’m at a wedding and I guess how many people are there, I’m usually way under.  My friend recently had 180 people at her wedding and I guessed about 50 less than that.  

    I also agree that it’s a regional thing.  We’ve invited 150 and are hoping for about 120 to attend.  We have lived all over the country and reactions from our friends who have asked how many people we’re inviting have ranged from “that’s all?” to “that many?” to “oh ok, so normal size.”  I can’t even fathom a wedding in the 300+ range, but I have Greek and Italian friends who have had 500-800 people at their weddings.  An old co-worker of mine’s sister had almost 1000!  That just seems overwhelming (and expensive!!!) to me, but it’s a cultural tradition and totally the norm for them.

    Post # 66
    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We invied 287 people and everyone tells us ours is really big and im like really? lol oh well 

    Post # 67
    1663 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’d say under 100 is small, 100-175ish is medium, and 175 and up is big.

    Post # 68
    1470 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    oopps I read that wrong, I think anything over 100 people is on the biger side… We are having 75 people at our wedding… I had a cousin who kept saying they were having a “small wedding of 250 people”  it drove me nuts there is nothing small about 250 people”!!!!!

    Post # 69
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Personally I’d think anything more than 100 is big. I would must prefer a smaller wedding so I will be able to speak to all of my guests and still enjoy the day. That’s why we have stuck with about 70-75

    Post # 70
    336 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    0-75 is small

    76-130 normal

    130-180 big

    I think anything more than that is just too much. My BFF is getting married 2 months before us and when she started planning (about a yr after me) she said she was inviting 75 @ most… I was shocked! We were thinking like 150-175 for ours. Then I realized-you can’t enjoy your day with that many people at your wedding without people feeling like you didn’t speak to them or spend enough time with them. Thats a LOT of people when you think about it. It just seems like a waste. And I just can not make sense of spending money on this huge reception for people that I dont even see once a year. We are having about 100 and if I had my way, it would even be that many. Especially with alcohol with that many people-it kind of seems like it could get ugly quick.



    Post # 71
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My head is literally spinning when I see these huge numbers of 600-700 guests…all I can think of is how much these weddings must cost! I would love to have more people at our wedding (our guest list is at 140 right now), but due to budget that just can’t happen. But back to the main question…I think anything 200-300 is large and over 300 is huge

    Post # 72
    109 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If 150 is average, then I’d think 200-250 would be big. We’re inviting about 340 and expecting somewhere between 280 and 300. A third of our guests are clear across the country and we don’t expect them all to make it.

    I come from a large and close knit Mexican family. Big weddings are the norm in my family; it was even considered rude by my mom to exclude kids. I wasn’t invited to a first cousin’s wedding five years ago and I was seriously hurt (this is just not something you do in my family). Aside from the fact that I want my extended family present, I also don’t want to hurt any family members. My Fiance has a huge group of friends and of course there’s his family. Big family means big parties, but it also means you have a lot of support and extra hands for DIY things. 

    We’re both used to the surprise and judgement from others and I always feel like I have to explain the family thing.  It’s most annoying to get the “wow, that’s HUGE!” reaction from potential vendors. It’s not professional. 

    Post # 73
    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My family thinks my wedding is big at 150… I think that is average.  Fi’s family is HUGE and we’re not inviting all of them because budget just won’tallow plus on his dad’s side, we don’t really intearct with them so it’s fine.

    I think anything under 100 is small.

    Anything over 200 is big.  I would love to invite at least 200 and be able to actually host 200 but I can’t.  But in order to get my 150, I did invite over 200 people.  I know at least 50 of them who are oot won’t come.  


    Post # 74
    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    To me, under 30 people is tiny, 30-70 is small, 70-150 is medium, 150-300 is big, and 300+ is huge!  We invited about 70 and had about 55, so we were clearly on the small end.

    Post # 75
    11268 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i think anything under 50 is intimate, 50-100 is small, 100-200 average, 200-400 big, 400+ very big

    Post # 76
    470 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Surprised good grief thats a lot of people 

    I have 33 people that includes my bridal party and my fiance and I

    I think 60 is a big wedding 

    100 is whoa!! thats a lot of people

    now 150 to 300+ is like what the???

    how do you know that many people?

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