(Closed) What do you consider a "modest" wedding set? Total carat weight

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What do you consider a "modest" wedding ring set total carat weight?
    Under 1/3 carat : (27 votes)
    14 %
    Under 1/2 carat : (73 votes)
    37 %
    Under 1 carat : (71 votes)
    36 %
    Under 1.5 carat : (19 votes)
    10 %
    Under 2 carats : (8 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
    1169 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You shouldn’t care what other people think. This is an irrelevant question.

    Post # 3
    1945 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I would consider a modest set one plain band and one with small diamonds like half eternity totalling less than half a carat, or a solitaire less than 1/3 carat with a plain band.


    Post # 4
    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2001

    A modest set for me would be a plain wedding band coupled with plain engagement band with a 0.5 solitaire. 

    Post # 5
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Less than 0.5 ct. is modest to me. Note: this does not affect how much I like the set, nor what I think of the wearer. I often find smaller sets prettier and classier.

    Post # 8
    3171 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t really know what modest means. I suppose if I was to assume it’s somewhat equal to understated than I feel it wouldn’t be about the carat weight, rather the style and how it fits on the hand. I didn’t complete the poll 

    Post # 9
    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think 50 or so years ago, 0.30 carat was the standard for engagement rings and it is now 1 ct (not what I think, just the most popular/common now), so I would say anything under 0.85 ct, which is where the first big diamond price jump is. With a setting and band, a total under 1.2 ct.

    To whom it may concern: “Modest” is not an insult – this includes people who say they’d “rather spend money on other things” or “are not flashy.” They are modest spenders or have a modest style. These are the kinds of ring sizes you would see on people who use those kinds of phrases.

    A 0.50 ct on a TOTAL set would be a little smaller than modest, IMO. That’s bordering on “delicate.” 

    Post # 10
    2635 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    It really varies by your location.  I know that rings tend to be bigger on the east coast compaired to europe or even the midwest.

    Post # 12
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    franklymydearidont : I am always amazed by these kinds of comments?!

    Why do you think that you get to decide what other people should care about/should find interesting to ask about?

    Your comment is irrelevant to this thread.



    I voted for the first option, but I don’t live in the US, so my standard may differ from others on here! A 1 carat rock over here is seen as huge!

    Post # 13
    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    adel2 :  My thought too. 

    OP, my modest wedding set would be my engagement ring with my wedding band and they’re blingy. Just love diamond so much!

    Post # 14
    369 posts
    Helper bee

    In my opinion, I would say 1.25. Since that wasn’t an option I chose ‘under 1.5ct’. I have a .5ct ering, but am looking at getting a .3 tcw wband, in addition to that I would also want to add an anniversary band down the line which would probably be .45 tcw. So add them all together: .5 + .3 + .45 = 1.25 tcw

    Post # 15
    1702 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I would say a modest set is any set worn by a lady who is successful but chooses not to upgrade or go full bling. That could be 1/6 carat or 1 carat+ in my mind. Personally, I think there is something so elegant about more modest wedding sets. 

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