Post # 1
ok real quick!! i’m getting married!! my fiance and i originally were going to go off by ourselves and get married, then we decided to do a destination wedding with our parents and a few close friends. After a few problems and stressing on where people will stay and trying to get everything together we have decided to go out of the country to get married!! which was our original idea! so my fiance passes the new idea on to her parents, after we dicided what to do and where to do it and they are absolutely pissed off!! they told her it was a slap in the face to them!!! some one please tell me your opinion. they told us they were gonna go anyhow!! Bullshit!! lol is it wrong for us to go away just the 2 of us and then come back and have a huge party (which is what we have planned to do)???? thanks in advance to your comments!!
Post # 3
They are upset because they were already making plans and then you changed your minds. Did they know of your original plan? Maybe they just have to get used to the idea.
I am assuming they weren’t the ones giving you trouble about where to stay at the destination wedding? Are you wanting to elope because it is easier or because you rather it’d just be the two of you? If it is because it is easier maybe you should have a small destination with just each of your parents and ask them to help you organize it.
Post # 4
thats what we did, we married in PNG in June and last week we had a big party for about 150 people
his greek mother has said “i didnt see my 1st son get married” but my family is pretty crazy so there were no issues
what you have to remember is its just a single day and after the day, no matter how big a wedding you had and how much money was spent its over and thats when the real important stuff happens – youre starting your life together as a married couple
i wouldnt change a thing about our wedding
Post # 5
You should do whatever you want – it’s your wedding and not your parents.
However, if you’re going to have a huge party anyway, why not just have the ceremony there also. Perhaps have a backyard wedding or something that is small and intimate service?
Post # 6
Maybe they just want to be there to see the wedding? Totally understandable in my opinion. It may hurt them a lot that they can’t see you two get married.
Post # 7
What’s their reason for being angry? Are you giving them the option of making the trip if they want to? Maybe you could do a “ceremony” at your big party so that everyone there feels like they got to be a part of it. When you get married out of the country, be sure to take LOTS of pictures and display them at the party for everyone.
Best of luck!