(Closed) What do you do??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Change the topic? I can’t think of a way to get out of that situation!!!

Post # 4
359 posts
Helper bee

Ummmmm…give it to ’em…?

I doubt because someone is asking for your registry information that they are *assuming* they’re invited.  I could be wrong, but…

Post # 5
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just tell them. I know it feels awkward, but if they’re asking, they want to know. It’s even more awkward, I think, to go through the “Oh you don’t have to buy us anything . . . ” routine.

But wait–I’m assuming they know they’re not invited with my answer here. Is there a chance that they think they might be invited?

Post # 6
7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tell them you didn’t register… and pray that they don’t find out you did. :S that’s a tough one.

Post # 7
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Tell them. Some people who aren’t invited to the wedding, may still choose to give you a gift.

What’s rude is volunteering the unsolicited information to them (especially via a shower invite when they’re not invited to the wedding). And that’s not what you’re doing, so rest easy.

Post # 8
4824 posts
Honey bee

I would give it to them.

My mom bought gifts for many of my friends knowing very well she was not invited. Some people just like to do that. I received gifts from people who were not invited as well.

If you think they think they are invited, they will learn soon enough. Most people don’t buy a gift so far in advance before they receive and invite. When they don’t receive an invite they will know.

Post # 10
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would give it to them.  If they are asking, they obviously want to know.

Sometimes people want to buy you a congratulations gift, even if they aren’t invited to the wedding.

Post # 11
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@jensmit_ua: Give it to them. 

You can still send someone a gift if you aren’t invited to the wedding.  I have sent people who I am fond of gifts, knowing I wouldn’t be invited to the wedding or even after the fact because I want to recognize a special time in their life.


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