(Closed) What do you do

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ask Dick Cheney  ;o)

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You love them no matter what, that’s all.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

its your opportunity to learn to stop judging!  this one irks me.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What happens is you love and accept that child no differently than if he were straight.  I come from a devout Roman Catholic family and my only brother happens to be gay.  My parents were upset at first and tried to convince him that homosexuality was wrong because that was their belief at the time, but being gay is not a choice, and the only choice lies in your reaction to it.  You can either choose to accept that person the way they are (because it’s the only way they can be) or you push that person away and risk losing them forever.  It’s your choice, but for me, the choice was a simple one!

My brother never told me that he was gay–I had to find that out on my own, and when I did, what I told him was something like this, “Look, I want you to know that I know you’re gay, and I also want you to know that it doesn’t change anything between us.  You’re still my brother and nothing will ever change that.”  I told him this because it was just before he moved away to Ireland and I didn’t want him to go away with things left unsaid between us, and worse, I didn’t want him to go away thinking that I might not accept him if I knew the truth.  I was very afraid that he might not ever come back if he thought those things about his family, but I also meant every word I said to him and still do.

Just love and accept them, that’s all you have to do.  Even if you don’t agree with their lifestyle, just remember that it’s THEIR lifestyle, not yours, and they live this way because it’s what’s right for them even if it’s not right for you.  Then again, it’s not even really about “right” or “wrong” per say but about the very nature of it all, and if you TRULY love someone, you will NOT turn your back on them just for being true to their own nature.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

I will love them no matter their orientation. In my opinion, that’s exactly who God made them to be, so I will love them for it. I don’t think they will change in my eyes at all.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@TheLittleCuriousBee:  You accept it and embrace it, the same way you do about every aspect of your child, like brown eyes or being tall or having a great sense of humor. Being exactly who we are is a gift to the world. I would HOPE that if someone thought gay people didn’t deserve to marry, and then one of their children was gay, they would come to a new realization that all human beings are entitled to the same rights. (For the record, I am an atheist and 100% in favor of GLBT rights.)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

you do the same thing you would do if they turned out straight.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would love them no matter what. 

The anti-gay marriage thing I just don’t get.  You don’t need to be married in a church to be married in the USA.  So there is no reason two consenting human beings should not be able to get married.

If you’re against gay marriage, don’t get one.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@kes18:  I think this is less of a political gay marraige issue post.. but more of a how do you deal with your child if they’re gay and it goes 100% against your belief system. 

I’ve seen it in my own family (extended) and it’s really rough on both the child and parents. A lot of times the child fails to see that the parent still loves them. BUT there are also times that the parent’s don’t act/react the right way. Basically it put pressure in the family but both the son (in this case) and the father (who is deeply religious) have learned to accept the beliefs of the other person. As much as it hurts the father, he still loves his son and continues to learn to be more accepting day after day. He’s sad his child doesn’t follow the belief system to the T but he realizes that everyone is a sinner and has their own struggles in life. the key here is… you continue to love yoru child no matter what.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’d accept it like any other facet of who they are. Being gay would be a part of who my child was, but it wouldn’t define them (unless they wanted it to, I guess).

I would be sad, however, that they would likely deal with a lot more hate and ignorance due to their orientation. Everyone has to deal with jerks sometimes, but given how vocal homophobes can be, I would be frustrated that my child wouldn’t be able to go through life just like everybody else in that respect.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

The same thing I would do if I had a child that was straight

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