Post # 1
I’m not talking about workplace stuff here where you can tell HR but street arrasment. We only have one car so during the day I walk everywhere, no biggie. But I find when Fiance not with me the scum of the world wants to corner me, fallow me, and grab me. And with the abuses in my past whenever stuff like this happens it puts my in a bad state of mind and I just feel icky to say the least. So how do you deal with it? any advice besides self defence classes and mace?
P.S Fiance says I could punch someone I feel threatened/cornered to get away, is this true? legaly speaking that is.
Post # 3
Where are you living with such high rates of harassment?
If you are in a crowded area (i.e. street, bus, etc) with lots of people around, I’d say if they are touching you/cornering you the best thing to do is in a loud voice (so people around can hear you).
Say something like, “Hey, stop touching me you pervert. Get away from me or I’ll call the cops.”
Usually just calling everyone else’s attention to it around you will embarass them enough to back away.
If they still press on (or it’s a quite/secluded area) and you feel trapped, I think a slap, punch, or knee to the groin would probably be fine as it was in self defense.
If you feel threatened and you can get away, then you can run from them, again yelling loudly for them to leave you alone to draw attention from others and scare them off.
A self defense class is probably a good idea as well just to help you feel safer.
Post # 4
Yes. You don’t have to wait until they touch you to defend yourself. If they’re threatening you, even if they say nothing and don’t touch you, but make you feel threatened, you can use physical force to defend yourself. I think mace would be wy easier, personally.
Post # 5
How awful for you. This is unacceptable!
I would do 2 things. 1. contact the police through a non-emergency line and request resources for staying safe in your community 2. find or create a group in your community who will work together to tackle this issue…a women’s group, a domestic violence prevention group, neighborhood watch etc. I think reaching out to others in your community so this doesn’t stay “your” problem.
As far as self-defense goes, I dunno, do what you gotta do.
Post # 6
It’s not really a big town here but it’s not tiny either. But it seems to be me… It doesn’t really matter where I am, how I dress etc. So I don’t really know why I get the reaction I do o-O
I supose a self defence class would be briliant, just there isn’t one suitable around :/
Post # 7
@icetea: That’s a brilliant idea! I’m rather new to this town so I’ll have to see if something like that exists here ^-^