Post # 1
Hi. I would like to approach this subject as to what to do with teenagers that are underage that drink that will be attending the wedding. What is the best way to approach this ? My sister is the only one and she will not be accompanied by my parents as they wont be invited. She is the only one at this time. Thank you.
Post # 3
@isabelle_86: The bartender should know to card people who are ordering drinks. And your sister should have enough respect for you not to drink any your wedding if she’s underage.
Post # 4
If you have a venue they probably will not allow it for legal purposes.
Post # 5
My cousins went crazy at my brother’s wedding. They’re all of age now, but weren’t then. How old is your sister? Does she drink otherwise (legally or not)? I’d almost approach it as — I can’t monitor it, but I’m going to make sure she’s safe so she’s going to stay at the hotel and I’ll pay for the room type thing.
Post # 6
@isabelle_86: Tell your bartender to make sure that he is carding, but I would hope that your sister has enough respect to not break the law at your wedding. Since it’s a serious offense to provide alcohol to a minor, make SURE that all of your “t”s are crossed and “i”s are dotted.
Obviously you shouldn’t HAVE to do it, but tell the teenagers’ parents to remind their kids that just because there is alcohol for the adults doesn’t mean that they are permitted to drink.
Post # 7
I didnt do anything about it. I trusted the bartenders to card anyone they thought to be underage. After all, it’s them on the line if a minor is server.
Post # 8
We only had a two guests under 21 at our wedding and I was confident that the bartenders would do their job and ID them.
Post # 9
@s2bmrscook: Yes. I hope so but im still considering weather she will be invited or not. I dont want any drama with my family, but it might start if shes the only that gets an invititation. But i guess i should just have a talk with her and ask her nicely not to.
Post # 10
One of our venue options asked specifically if there’d be an under 21s and for a description of them to circulate to the bartenders. I’m sure you could do that? Let them know you have an underage sister and not to serve her and what she looks like or is wearing?
Post # 11
I don’t know about at the bar, but my venue didn’t ID check for the circulating, all-you-can-drink Mimosas!
Post # 12
@isabelle_86: assuming you’ll have professional bartenders working for you, let them worry about it. If there is one person you want them to watch out for, give them a discrete heads up. Other than that, don’t take this on your shoulders.
Post # 13
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Post # 14
@cbgg: Im not worried about her buying drinks or trying to. Its more of her sneaking drinks off others that are of age.
Post # 15
@isabelle_86: does she have a problem when it comes to drinking? For example, is she an alcoholic, or does she get out of control? If so, I’d ask a trusted relative to keep an eye on her and run interference for you.
If not, I’d just let it go. Sneaking a drink at a relative’s wedding is a pretty innocent form of underage drinking.
Post # 16
In fact I knew of 3 under agers that were drinking. However, their parents were there and they all knew about it. Even if the parents weren’t there… as long as *I* wasn’t the one giving it to them and I knew that they wouldn’t be driving I wouldn’t have worried about it.