Post # 1
I’m hugely pregnant (37 weeks) and a little depressed. I need to think of fun activities to distract me during these last couple weeks of pregnancy, but a lot of the things I usually do for fun seem to be off limits for me right now, and in the immediate post-partum period. For example:
I can’t indulge myself with food because I’ve already gained too much weight and will need to diet after the baby is born to lose the weight again.
I can’t enjoy sex physically the way I used to, and obviously it will be out of the question for a while after the baby is here.
I don’t want to be too sedentary, and find sitting too long uncomfortable, so hours of movies and TV seem like a bad idea.
Exercise and other active pursuits are getting more difficult for me and are sometimes painful. I normally like dancing, but not in this body.
I guess roller coasters and thrill-seeking things like that are fun, but probably not safe for me right now.
I’m not super crafty or artistic.
Oh, also, money is kind of tight.
I’m in considerable discomfort and mild pain in my back and hips, and I need something that will take my mind off that, while treating myself to some kind of reward and making myself feel better. That pain and discomfort are morphing into depression when I think about how I can’t relieve them or escape them or distract myself from them because the things I usually like to do are increasingly off-limits to me. So, bees, what do you do for fun and physical pleasure when food and sex are off the table? When the balance between activity and sitting around is incredibly delicate? And when you don’t have a fortune to spend?
Post # 3
Do you like to read? I read two great books this year. Unbroken and Gone Girl. Really different both but both really enthralling.
Also, what about pre-natal yoga classes? That might help your hip and back pain.
Another idea is you could cook some meals to freeze and eat after the baby is born. If your significant other works you could make cupcakes or cookies to bring into work. Or you could send care packages/cards to out of town friends and family.
I’m only 12 weeks along but hopefully I’ll remember these suggestions when I get to your point 🙂
Good luck with these last few weeks!!
Post # 4
Can you find a pool to slowly swim around in? Even using a board to float and kick? Its good exercise, will releive some pressure and pain somewhat and can be fun.
Post # 5
@ThreeMeers: +1 Lots of my friends have told me that swimming really made them feel better late in the pregnancy because it took the weight off their bones.
A prenatal massage?
Post # 6
I don’t really want to do much with food, especially baking yummy sweet things. I’m afraid it would trigger me to overeat, and that’s the last thing I need right now. Although freezer meals are a great practical idea. But not what I’d call fun.
Swimming does sound kind of nice, but none of my old bathing suits fit now, and it barely seems worth it to get an expensive maternity suit to use for less than a month before the baby is here. Besides, I can’t see around my belly to shave my bikini area! I wish there were a private pool somewhere I could go skinny dipping!
A facial would probably exacerbate the acne I’ve got going now. The last (and only)time I had a pedicure, it left one of my toes really funky, even now, months later. I liked the massage part, though. That would probably be good for my cankles. Maybe they could skip the polish and fix my funky toenail?
A massage seems like the best idea so far…I know I’m an overly negative picky bitch and that’s half the reason I’m getting depressed…
Post # 7
I’m only 26 weeks but for the last 2-3 months I’ve been going for a prenatal massage twice a month. I was recommended this lady who charges $60/60 mins and it’s unreal. I’ve been to a few spas where I’ve spend $150/60 mins and this massage blows those massages out of the water. It’s so comforting and relaxing. Plus this girl leaves flavored water ( like strawberry mint, lemon lime, etc ) fruit and dark chocolate platter for after the massage.
So I say treat yourself to a massage they’re worth it!
Post # 8
@marjojo: pregnancy pilates!!!! Your legs and hips will love you for it. i took my friend she was pregnant with twins! And she loved it. Walk!!!! Walk everywere. watch gossip girl season. 1 to 5!!! Or gilmore girls 1 to 7!
Post # 9
At this point, I am just surviving 🙂 Do whatever you can to try to relax and feel better. I really know what you are going through- being pregnant all winter was hard- it was so cold here and I really didn’t know what the heck to do. Having Darling Husband massage me makes me feel better and helps me relax and gets my mind off things. Other than that, I have been playing a lot of bejeweled! Whatever works! I try to go for a short walk 5-6 times a week and that helps me feel better. I met up with a friend who treated me to lunch and that was nice. We also go to an art gallery occasionally. I like to get out of the house when it is nice (rare here right now!) We relax in bed at night and he massages my ribs (they hurt so bad!) We watched a lot of woody allen movies- and laying on my left side feels better than sitting, though getting in and out of bed is like an olympic event.
Post # 10
@marjojo: You don’t need a traditional swim suit. Call the pool and inquire about their swim suit policy; you may be fine in a sports bra, t-shirt and work out shorts.
Some local forest perserves have guided walks, that may be a fun way to get out of the house and get some sunshine.
Finally, while it is only for a few weeks, can you volunteer at your local dog shelter? The shelter I used to volunteer at encouraged volunteers people just to sit with the dog and pet them-providing their walks were taken care of.
Post # 11
Swimming and prenatal pilates. I also read a LOT but I didn’t mind sitting still. Frankly I preferred to just languish on the couch, in a chair, or in bed those last few weeks. But swimming (you just have to get over being in a swimsuit- it’s worth it!!) and pilates/yoga were fantastic.
Post # 12
I’m only 13 weeks but here are a few ideas based on what I’ve been doing so far and/or plan to do:
- Hiking or scenic walks.
- In Canada we have a company called Supperworks where you go in and make freezer meals. They have all the ingredients ready so it means no grocery shopping and all the prep work is done. If I go with a friend we make a fun evening of it. Perhaps there’s something similar in your area?
- I definitely have been enjoying facials, mani-pedis and massages at the spa.
- Enjoy a nice bubble bath while reading.
I haven’t done much swimming so far but certainly plan to once summer arrives where I’m at. Good luck!
Post # 13
@KH: Love your suggestion of helping out at the shelter.
@LyndzJM: Your pre-natal massages sound amazing. How did you find your place? I need to do some research and find someone who specializes in this around here. I’m a wedding photographer and after being on my feet for 10 hours + carrying 12 lbs of equipment I NEED a massage the day after my weddings. I can’t even imagine what it will be like for my August/September weddings when I’m 7 months pregnant.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@marjojo: Roll around on the floor while watching Netflix or Hulu? I vote for watching a Coupling marathon; if you haven’t seen the show before, it’s the British version of Friends.
Post # 15
@marjojo: I would still look into swimming. I would get a cheap bikini from Target or something so it doesn’t have to be an actual maternity suit. I know you sound uncomfortable with your body, but just throw a large crappy T-shirt over it if you don’t want your belly hanging out. It sounds like the best option to be active and relax!
Post # 16
@traceyjoy: we were actually recommended this massage studio through some members of my husbands crossfit group. They all go to her for deep massages after training hard. It’s nice because she gives us a discount as so many membera go to her. Just a fluke that she’s amazing for prenatal as well.