Post # 1
We do not have money for cocktail hour (alcohol isn’t allowed anyways)
Nor do we have money for appetizers. Dinner will more then likely be started at 6 pm. The catering compnay will be giving salads, fruit and vegatable trays but they do not set those out until the dinner is started..
My ceremony starts at 4 pm. Will be officially over by 417 pm. Then we stick around for about half an hour and take pictures. From there we go to the reception venue and take more pictures on the beach and in the gazebo.
The guests will be left on their own during this time.
I planned on being in the reception room by 530 pm at the latest.
People have stated to me (family) that they do not want to work on my wedding day. We already do not have anybody to clean up after we leave that night. We will end up having to ask my fiance’s family because of my family. Plus a couple of my family members will be taking care of my 2 youngest which are still babies and taking them back to my house to put them to bed.
So what did you do or what are you planning on doing?
Post # 3
Weddings I have been to haven’t had the cocktail hour, although that could be an australian difference.
Usually, we’ll go to the nearest pub and chill out before the reception.
For our wedding, we’ll have a 2 hour break between ceremony and reception for photos, and so we can go to the pub (we love that chilled part of other people’s weddings, and know that we won’t have time to relax much at the reception). So, as part of the invitation package, I’m drawing up maps that show the ceremony and reception locations along with nearby things to do (bars, cafes, gardens to walk in, etc) so guests can keep themselves entertained!
Post # 4
Where I’m from, most people just go to a bar, or back home for a little if it’s close enough.
Usually the bar is more popular.
Post # 5
@kazarmo: I think PP solution might be a good one for you! see if there is somewhere close by your guest could go to while youre doing pictures.. or could you do pictures before the ceremoney and move up dinner? or maybe change the time of you time of your wedding to earlier afternoon so that you could take pics after dinner and the light wont be ruined?
Im not sure what your guest will do for 1.5 hours with no snacks or drinks.. im sure there will be non alcoholic drinks tho.. can u guys afford some veggie trays or cheese trays? a little something for nibbling? 🙂
Post # 6
One of my friends had a 2-3 hour gap between the ceremony and coctail hour so they gave us these sheets with “fun things to do in the area.” We went and grabbed some snacks and did some local stuff and it was a lot of fun.
Do you have any friends that would maybe be willing to make some veggie platters or other appetizers? We’ve had friends offer that to us for our wedding and while right now we don’t need it, we are really grateful for them offering to help us in that way.
Post # 7
@kazarmo: how about non-alcoholic cocktail- I’ve been to one
Post # 8
I’ve been to a lot of weddings that have long gaps between ceremony and reception and guests weren’t taken care of at all. Although as a guest I hate this about some weddings, it is rather common. You could always do photos before the ceremony, and push your ceremony later to remove the gap.
As for taking stuff down – do you have to take everything down the night of? Or can you wait till the next day?
Post # 9
We didnt’ want to deal with travel and all the crap that comes with it. And since it’s a winter wedding in MICHIGAN – travel would have been a royal pain.
Move ’em in! Move ’em out! Ceremony and Reception are in the same space in a hotel. Cocktail hour will be in the hotel’s library while they set up the reception tables. Best decision we ever made.
Post # 10
@beemyname: Well we decided to make up our cheese and cracker trays plus I will be making a homemade red punch. So hopefully everyone will enjoy the snacks before we arrive.
It was the cheapest thing we could do but still try and make everyone happy.
Post # 11
@mousepeach: I kind of wish we would have gone with a typical reception type place. at the same time though our wedding will not be typical and I’m thankful for that as well.
Post # 12
@stargurl101: We have to have everything done the night of. There is no way around this at all. We hired a service to help us cater the event and then help take the deocrations and clean. This way we can get the hell out of there. I will probably appoint somebody in my family to oversee this but it does releave some stress off of us.
Post # 13
@kazarmo: Why don’t you suggest a local cafe or pub for people to just hang out at during the in between time?
Post # 14
@HappinessIsInDaisies: We decided to serve cheese and crackers and to have a homemade punch.