Post # 1
ceremony and join for cocktails, but will leave for dinner (because of a family conflict) and return for dessert and dancing ….
What do I do? I haven’t told my wedding planner yet, I’m sure she’ll know … but what would the Bees do?
I mean … so I am obviously not setting her a place for dinner, but during dessert and dancing she will need a table plus table setting for 2 … wth
She also has already voiced who she would like to sit next to … lol. (early on)
What does the hive say?
I am expecting 160’ish (invited 200’ish) … sent a few more than I expected … had some blank ones and gave them out too … and I’m seating tables of 8.
Post # 3
i dont understand why you would skip dinner but attend all the other stufff…. what if you promise to sit her somewhere so there will be no conflict?
yikes…. as if you dont have enough to deal with Ms H
Post # 4
I know!!!! She actually has another family commitment that she must show up to … which I don’t know if it’s real or made up … lol. =)
Post # 5
Wow, that’s a tough call. I’d check with your coordinator on that one. In my experience, no one stays at their seats after dinner. Everyone is up socializing while all of the dancing and cake eating is going on, so it might be hard to set out a place setting somewhere. Plus, most of the tables would probably be full.
Post # 6
Aw, heck, it’s got to be a real conflict. Who’d miss dinner but turn back up for dessert and dancing? I think she really wants to be at your wedding or else she wouldn’t rsvp for the return after dinner. Can she just find a seat when she comes back?
Post # 7
Surely you can slide another chair in at her preferred table once she returns for dessert? Things will be loosening up by then, and like another poster said, not many people stay in their seats by the time dancing begins.
Post # 8
what if you say your caterer says all or nothing; just have her come back after dessert
let her know your dilemma, any guest in their right mind should NOT be stressing the bride with their special needs; say either everything or nothing due to table setting and catering requirements she cant argue if its a catering rule
I feel your pain
Post # 9
i’d set her up for cocktail but not for dinner or dessert. she may not get back exactly in time for dessert. if she does, she can get a slice of cake..
also if she’s not going to be at dinner, she doesn’t get to pick who she wants to sit next to.
maybe that’s kinda harsh but it’ll be too difficult to accomodate it all otherwise.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
Yeah, I say she doesn’t need a place setting, since no one will be using them by the time she gets back!
Post # 11
I agree with nybride09 above… with 160 guests they don’t all get to pick who they’re sitting with, expecially if they aren’t even staying for dinner…
If dessert is directly following dinner you’re likely going to have to find a place for her to sit… frankly I’d stick her where ever you have room. It’s just dessert.
Post # 12
I wouldnt save a seat for her – everyone is up dancing and having fun if she wants to sit she’ll be able to!
Post # 13
i agree with the prior posts… no need to set a space for her. Once dinner is over everyone just sits where they please anyway.
Post # 14
I’m with the other responses… don’t worry about a designated place. Once dancing begins no one really sits at their place. Plus, not everyone even eats their cake.
I think that she is being as considerate as she can by letting you know that she won’t be present for dinner (which is often the most important thing to keep in mind for counting RSVPs)
Post # 15
I wouldn’t worry about giving her an assigned seat… I imagine a handful of your older guests will probably peace out once the real partying starts happening so she can just find an empty spot. If it’s that big of a deal, I’d probably give her and her party a seat in the back of the venue lol. What the heck, you don’t come to the dinner but give instructions as to who you want to sit with? Nuh uh. You don’t get to choose!
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
What a PITA. Like, “let me include you in my drama because you don’t have enough to worry about.”
Don’t assign her a seat, and don’t factor her into your other counts. If she doesn’t need a meal, she probably doesn’t need to be counted for other things with your venue.