(Closed) what do you do if your husband has a baby by another woman but dont want anymore

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

bamagirl08 I am so sorry your story ended this way, but maybe it’s for the best.

 

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well which choice can you really live with? Either you love him so much that you will have to accept the fact you will never have a biological child or you call the marriage quits.

Post # 49
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I was in this exact position myself and it ended in divorce.  The most frustrating part was that I made it clear before we were married that I wanted children of my own.  He waited until after we were married to “change his mind” and decide he didn’t want kids.  I think he thought I would change my mind after we got married.

DO NOT MISS OUT ON HAVING KIDS IF IT’S SOMETHING YOU WANT.  Talk to women who wanted kids but ended up not having them and a majority of them will tell you they regret it.  Do not force a man who doesn’t want kids into having them as that will not be good for your relationship.  You need to have a serious talk with yourself to figure out if this is a dealbreaker and if it is you need to sit him down to discuss it and decide if it’s a dealbreaker for him too.

Post # 50
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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@bamagirl08:  Jesus.  Well at least you know he was serious about it.  I’ll always wonder if my ex husband ended up getting snipped after the divorce.  Oh well.  Almost three years later and I am engaged to a man who absolutely wants children so I win.  Smile

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hopefully you can move on and find someone who has the same goals as you. Remember to take your time, though….I know you want a baby badky and are hurt from this relationship but you have TONS of time to have a baby. I’d hate to see you rush into a new relationship with someone becuase he will fill the void your ex refused to fill.

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