(Closed) What do you do to DISTRACT yourself from obsessing over WAITING?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t have anything I distract myself with! Even when I’m in class or studying, I find myself thinking about it

Post # 4
17 posts

Haha! What a great question πŸ˜€ I am currently helping my best friend plan her wedding, she is the first out of our group of friends to be married (certainly not the first one we thought would tie the knot! engaged after only 3 months?!) And I am her maid of honor, it can be sssoooooo frustrating.


I can admit however that I have not been wtih my boyfriend long enough to even want to consider marriage (our 1 year anniversary is in a few months) but it is still a lot of fun to think about! I occupy my time with training as well.  After having lost 30lbs I am now fit as a fiddle and training for a triathlon for April 2013.  I also work on my relationship with my man, finding out new things about him, sharing expierences with each other, growing with each other etc  I know at this rate, if/when we do marry our marriage will be a thing of beauty from all of our loving time and effort πŸ™‚

Post # 5
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Studying for final exams, and losing weight for me

Post # 6
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Barn

I research puppies and training techniques. From one “waiting” to another haha πŸ™‚

Post # 7
150 posts
Blushing bee

I hang around the Bee of course πŸ™‚ and I do things that are productive with my life. Just because I’m waiting does not mean I supposed to sit like a piece of stone!

Post # 8
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve been keeping myself so busy (between work and school, as I work at the local community college and thus can take classes for a pittance) that I’m too exhausted to do much.  SO seems to be a bit put out by this, since he’s used to having me all to himself during my non-work hours, and now I’m either in class, at the college waiting for class to start (with my work schedule and the distance between the school and where we live, there’s no point in driving home after work), or trying to get some sleep two days of the week, and the other days I’ve been finding other things to occupy my time.

Post # 9
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I keep focusing on what’s important, I have a great relationship, a man that loves me and wants to marry me and that WILL happen, it’s just time, and time passes. I’m happy, I’m healthy and I just have to be patiente. Patience is a virtude πŸ˜›

Also when I’m like really low or unable to see the bright side, I like to go outside, now that the weather allows it, and catch some sun πŸ˜›

Post # 10
715 posts
Busy bee

I go through obsessive phases! like this week after i thought i may have got a proposal! and then I’ll forget about it for a while! I too lost weight recently….just 10 lbs but thats all i really needed to lose! i’m now lighter than when me and my SO first met. he told me not to lose anymore! I take my dogs walking go gym, cook clean etc! I work full time in a hectic enough job! And i’m starting a weekend animal welfare course later this year! i’m actually very independent i’m away every second weekend, my SO say i’m like a lodger living with him…..hmmmm maybe thats why i’m still waiting? maybe i’m too independent!Undecided ah well if i didn’t get my girls and family time in i’d probably be gone stir crazy by now! he he! 

Post # 11
529 posts
Busy bee

@FutureSLS:  okay, i’m technically married already, but I was a lurker on these boards for ages before i got engaged. i’m now trying to conceive, so a different kind of waiting (waiting to ovulate, waiting to test etc).

First things, congrats for taking the first step towards weight loss. I bet you’ll get more confident, and your SO will notice, and when you do get to go dress shopping it’ll be all the more fun πŸ™‚

Try not to mention anything wedding related. I drove my Darling Husband crazy (and we ended up fighting and arguing loads) mentioning rings etc before he was ready, and apparently I just delayed things <sigh>. I know it can be incredibly difficult, but try and hide all wedding related items (e.g. I was obsessed with wedding magazines, but I never let him see me with one before we were engaged).

And take up a new hobby, and go out with your friends more and do your own thing. He’ll soon notice your life’s not on hold waiting for him to do something, and be reminded of the more mysteriously interesting you he fell for when you first met and started dating.


Post # 12
5617 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

Well after my SO repeatedly telling me I need a hobby (I work full time, as well as an a second part time job, and look after the house etc…. busy enough me thinks!) and stupidly signing up for a 10K run, I joined a gym. Not really overweight or anything but would like to lose a couple of pounds and get fitter, so that is what I am doing now to keep busy and it is also my time to be independant and have some alone time.

Post # 13
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Congrats on losing weight!! Thats awesome!! I also go through obsessive periods. I work and go to school full time and that definitely helps. Looking at the boards on here also helps, knowing that there are bees like me waiting! 

Post # 14
51 posts
Worker bee

I have found the ultimate solution for me – I have started fostering pets for the humane society! I just found my first foster dog her forever home this week after saving her from the shelter, training her, and nursing her back to health for a month. It was like rediscovering a part of myself, a passion within me that I haven’t felt for awhile now! I love animals and I can train dogs, but I haven’t been able to have any dogs of my own. So being able to nurture Annabelle, my foster dog, from starving shelter dog to perfect pet was an indescribably beautiful experience. And best of all, all of that nurturing served as a much needed outlet for all of my mushy feelings! It gave me somewhere to pour all of this pent up energy. Annabelle has now moved on to her perfect forever home, which is a bit bitter sweet. I loved her, and I will miss her terribly. But now I can go on to save more animals in need. I am hoping to get 3 kitties tomorrow that I will keep for a few weeks until they are old enough to be spayed and neutered. It is a powerful distraction, and it does the world a lot of good!

Post # 15
72 posts
Worker bee

I’m currently studying for big exams.. so it is so hard to focus πŸ™ myfriendsaremarried site is funny

Post # 16
314 posts
Helper bee

@FutureSLS:  Congrats on your weight loss! I’ve been losing weight too! Im only down 12 pounds so far, but im well on the way. lol

I don’t really “obsess” per se over waiting. But I am finding myself more anxious. So, I….Call my best friend. Leave my house as much as possible. And when im there, I tend to watch movies that aren’t romantic or do homework, put a puzzle together, garden, cook, etc. 

At work, im going through bridal mags. The situation with my SO and I is unique. Either this man is proposing next month, or he’s off his rockers. lol He has literally sat down and planned a engagement party with me. And was quite alarmed initally when he found out I had not been planning! We aren’t engaged! So I didn’t feel as though I should be planning anything! lol It could be happening this weekend or next month, so we’ll see.

Other than that, im pretty much in control of my emotions so far. lol 

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