What do you do to make your spouse feel special?

posted 11 months ago in Married Life
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

You’re a catch! Can I be your husband haha ! 

 

Post # 18
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Helper bee

We are newly engaged but I’ve left him a note in the lunch I’ve packed for him every day since we started living together, and he’s kept them all. Long notes (like 1-2 pages lol). He’s off work until next month but works on call 24/6, so I get up and make lunch / wrote him a note even if it’s 3 am. That’s one that means a lot to him because he has a really hard job and it helps relax him. That is the biggest thing that he always appreciates. I do other stuff, but those small gestures mean the most to him. Missing sleep to make his work day better is well worth it and I plan to continue this forever.

I need to be better at not nagging, i find it hard!

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper

That made me smile. Mine is a good looking man, much more so than most men his age, partly because of his beautiful dark hair, which now has just a little spray of silver on one side of his forehead.  l am the possessor of thin, slow growing meh hair, so….

l have many other qualities he doesn’t however, ha ha. 

 

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Post # 20
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Bumble bee

I do everything I can to make his life easier. 

I tell and show him how much he is valued and appreciated everyday

 I send him loving and funny texts when he is at work. 

I tell everyone who knows us the same. 

I trust him. As a verb. I love him, as a verb. I honor him, as a verb. 

We’ve only been together 4 years, but I am mindful of how blessed we are and nurture our relationship  everyday. 

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

What kind of things does he do for you? I think you do enough tbh. A couple I knew, the wife did so much for the husband, would iron his underwear and socks as well. He felt smothered and left. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I just try to take care of little things. I notice his name tag for work where he’ll forget it? Put it on the front door and text him about it. I know he’s had a long week, I try to get a few extra chores done so he doesn’t have to on his day off. I go out of my way every Wednesday to pick up his comic books on my way home from work because he loves a store in the town we used to live in, that I still drive through to go home. I keep an eye on his toiletries and pick up his shampoo or whatever before he runs out. Just taking care of the day to day things. It’s nothing overly special or cute but he always knows I’m thinking of him. 

Post # 23
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881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

What is your husbands love language? Almost everything you described falls under “acts of service.” However, if his love language is physical touch or quality time, you need to rethink your approach. 

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Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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alrobinson :  That sounds like heaps haha.

DH and I have been together for 8 years.  

We will do each other’s chores if the other has had a tough/long day at work.  We give each other compliments regularly.  

We are very independant people, I’d never ask him to read to me or lotion my legs, and he’d never ask me to deliver him lunch to work.  I do meal prep for him sometimes, but to save money, not to service him haha.

One thing we have discussed recently, is being okay with less “time” together, and instead focus on quality time.  For example, not counting TV or playing on the phone in the same room together as time, but instead focusing on eating dinner at the table or talking about our day, or going for a walk together etc. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: By the lake

You said you want something different?  Whether you can sing or not,  serenade to him.  You have a guitar?  Do you have a karaoke machine called Magic- mic?  You can even write him a song sing it to him. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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alrobinson :  You sound like such a cute and loving couple. 

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