- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015
I would not waste money on a “friend” you never see or speak to. We are having around 100 people coming and that’s only our close friends and family. Your friend John is in your life, you see him on a daily basis and speak to him all the time, that is what I would consider a friend. As for your friend Sally and then roomates who you havent seen for 2.5 years, definitely not that is just a huge waste of money.
@SarahTee: when you started out I thought the problem was the of them in the same room and thought: just tell both that the respective other is invited as well and let them figure out whether that’s ok and I not than for whomever it’s not ok needs to stay away.
But having tea the rest I really don’t even see the problem 😉 I have to say though that all these etiquette rules here on the bee seem to be way more relaxed in Germany.
Now honestly, if there’s a person I don’t consider a friend I’m not even going to think twice about inviting them. We’d like to keep it small (ending up with around 70 people which to us doesn’t even feel small anymore but mid-size with averages around here), so there are a number if people that I am definitely regarding as friends, I think highly of them and they’re way above the “liking stuff on fb once in a while” and I still won’t invite them because we simply dont want to have such a big wedding.
It’s your wedding, when you think back to that day ten years from now, you should hopefully still be friends with all your guests and happy yoh shared that special day with them. If you feel already now that this doesn’t apply to some of the people, don’t bother inviting them.
If I were in your shoes, i would invite her for old times sake. Even if you are closer now ith john you met him through sally and you were once close! I def. would also take to Sally and tell her that you invited john just so she knows and can make an informed decison about coming, and i dont think she will be coming anyway. But the thing is if you still care about Sally and you are hoping that some day you will patch things up with her you should know that if you dont invite her that the friendship doesnt stand a chance. So it goes far than the actual invite.
I was sally once. By the time the wedding came I had a new bf actually. I declined bc I still didn’t wanna see the ex. I can tell the bride hates me for that. (I went to hs with groom). Oh well.
I say no need to invite.
If you’re barely friends now and probably won’t really be after, why bother. Some friendships fizzle and that’s fine. No need to burst the budget trying to accommodate people that don’t even matter to you anymore.
The truth is – you aren’t really friends with her. I doubt she’d be offended that she’s not invited.
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