(Closed) What do you do when no one likes your dress?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Member
2867 posts
Sugar bee

Go with what you like.  Tell them that it’s you that will be wearing it, not them.

Post # 4
Member
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

If everyone doesn’t like it I would really take a critical look at the dress. Did you ask them if there is a specific reason they don’t like it (doesn’t flatter you, too revealing, etc.)?

If everyone’s reason for not liking it is because it just isn’t their taste I say F*** them and get it 😀

Post # 5
Member
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wear what you like!!! Maybe they need to see you in it for the full effect! 🙂

Post # 7
Member
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Everyone has different opinions on dresses.  You can never please everyone (and sometimes you can’t please anyone!).  I’ve seen girls try on dresses that are AMAZING on them but for some reason the friends they are with just don’t like the dress (not what they themselves would pick out) and then friends’ opinions keep the bride from buying what is perfect for them.  I think that everyone has different taste… and I really admire people with a unique style who don’t feel the need to conform to what “everyone else” likes.  It’s YOUR day… You only get one wedding.  I’d pick the dress YOU love and screw everyone else’s opinion.  If the dress makes you feel amazing, then rock it on your wedding day with your head held high!

Post # 8
Member
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Dont feel too bad.  Sometimes even though you may like a certain outfit, the general majority consensus may feel another outfits flatters you better or just looks more “like you”.

If the majority of people are in agreement that a particular dress just didnot suit me I probably would keep looking.  I would keep the dress I like in the running but definitely keep looking.

Who knows you may ultimately find something else you love that everyone happens to love on you as well.

Post # 9
Member
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Can we see the dress?

I think it’s a good idea to ask people why they don’t like it – it just might not be to their taste. For instance, my mum really hates 30s-style silk bias cut dresses. She just does not like them, not for weddings, not on anyone. So if I’d picked a dress like that, she would’ve been pretty unimpressed. Other people hate lace, or hate pickups, or strapless, or whatever. People are entitled to their opinions – you can just choose whether you take them into account or not. 

Alternatively, they might have a fixed image of what they thought you’d wear, and so it might take a while to get past that if your dress is a big departure. 

It sounds like they’re all pretty honest, so it’s worth finding out if the think it actually looks bad on you. If it’s a taste/expectation thing, ignore them. If it’s a flattering thing, maybe give it some thought – who hasn’t looked back at photos of a particular outfit/hairdo and thought “Why didn’t anyone TELL me it looked awful!?”

Post # 10
Member
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think if you love a dress, you should go for it. 

That said, I had a dress I loved and my closest friends disliked; I eventually found something COMPLETELY different that I loved far more, and they also loved.  Now, I don’t like the first dress so much, after all (and I’m having doubts about the new one because I wish it was less simple/more flattering, but that’s another story and also hopefully just due to obsessing :))

So I would keep looking, just to make sure.  That dress will still be there, right?

Post # 11
Member
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

 If someone disagrees with your choices, yes go for it. But if you know that everyone does it like it when you are walking down the aisle – how is that going to make you feel? Are you still going to feel confident during the ceremony or for pictures?

I don’t know – I would keep looking just because I know it would affect my opinion of the dress and of how I look in the long run. I know it shouldn’t and it is a bad reason but it would. If you are lucky enough to know what you want and not care what others think – go for it.

Post # 12
Member
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Have you seen pics of yourself in it? There was a dress that I loved, and my mom was like “eh…” and I just figured I would come back later wtihout her and get it. But that night I looked at the pictures and realized I agreed with her.

Post # 13
Member
695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

That’s tough if it’s everyone you’ve shown- sorry. 🙁

But, go with it if you love it!

When my dress arrived (2 weeks before the wedding no less) and I showed my mom, she wasn’t gaga over it. I knew she wouldn’t love it, but all she could say was that it was a pretty dress but she wasn’t sure about it.

I knew my sister wouldn’t like it- she’s not into weddings and it was a short, poofy dress- not her style at all (not my mom’s either for that matter), but it still hurt when neither of them said I looked beautiful in it. It didn’t help that I was doubting my dress 2 weeks before the wedding either.

But, I stuck with it, reworked some details and was absolutely in love with my dress on my wedding day. And guess what, everyone loved it too! So, if you love your dress, stick with it!

Good luck!

Post # 14
Member
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What dress is it?

Post # 15
Member
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Is there a reason they didn’t like it? I am absolutely in love with my dress when I put it on and I feel amazing, but my mother and a couple of my best friends didn’t think it was enough. I like simple understated beauty and I think a lot of people thought I needed more since it was my wedding day. So I got an over the top veil and it sort of pleased everyone.

Post # 16
Member
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Get what you want!  Its not about them.

The topic ‘What do you do when no one likes your dress?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors