Post # 1
I mean really what do you do? I’m not a fan of spending money for nothing. Today is my RSVP deadline and still I’m missing about half of them. We even sent out reminder letters about a week and a half ago because today is also the deadline to get the hotel rooms at the lower rate.
I hate having to chase after grown individuals to make them take responsibility for themselves. I mean mail it already….it already has a friggin stamp on it. Write your name, circle what you want to eat and put it in the mailbox. Geesh!!
I’m really leaning towards not ordering food for the people who don’t RSVP. How long do I wait before I just say F-it and give the hotel the count we have?
Post # 3
You should start calling people that haven’t RSVP’d. You have to make sure you know the correct count and don’t have to pay extra on the day of the wedding because some people show up uninvited.
Post # 4
wait 5-6 days for some more to trickle in (they may have posted them today). Then start the phone calls/emails/texts.
Post # 5
We have already started the process of calling people that we haven’t gotten RSVPs from. Thankfully there isn’t a ton of them, but it is so annoying. My plan is that if people don’t get back to us by the date our venue needs a count, then I’m not including them. And they better not show up.
Post # 6
I would wait about 3 business days after they are due and then start calling people. Do you have any bridesmaids that you could delegate some of the calls to? If people show up to the wedding and there isn’t enough food or seats, it may cause some bigger issues (which I would personally try to avoid).
Post # 7
If you don’t hear back from them, get on the phone asap to find out what their plans are. Never assume anything, although some people automatically expect the couple to be mindreaders as to whether they are attending or not when they do not return the reply cards. If you are unable to get ahold of them, count them as a no.
Post # 8
I say start calling tomorrow or the day after. I wouldn’t want to wait too long. And if people have to pay the higher hotel rate because they were bad at RSVPing. I say, too bad…their fault.
Post # 9
I would start calling in the next day or two.
Post # 10
Thanx for the advice ladies. Man it’s so f’ing annoying!!
Post # 11
ours were due a week ago and we’re still missing about 35. I’ve split up the missing ones between Future Mother-In-Law, mother, Fiance & myself. A lot of people don’t think, misplace it, don’t bother, don’t care or loose it. It sucks that you spend money on their invite and return card and they may not even see it for more than 1 second. We had some get lost – they never rsvp’d because they never recieved it!!!
Post # 12
I would start calling people or have the MOB/MOG call them. That’s the only way your going to know for sure!
I have a few family members that even if they RSVP yes my mom is calling because they are known NOT to come even when they RSVP that they are.
Post # 13
I did NOT start calling. I counted the missing RSVPs as no, unless I was sure they were coming and just forgot. Then I contacted them.
Post # 14
I can relate; it was a nightmare. I gave folks about 2-3 days, in case it was still in the mail. Then I just send one email saying if you don’t get a hold of us, then we regret you won’t be celebrating with us. That worked for some; for others, I had to send individuals requests. We finally got a hold of everyone; took about two weeks, so I was more than happy I set the rsvp deadline early to account for this. Folks are just plain rude.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
Today is also my deadline and I’m missing six, so I will wait a few days in case people mailed them today and then will start calling.
Post # 16
We are giving them a week after and then calling. We sent out 110 invites, and probably have 35 back. Our deadline is Sunday.. ha! Yesterday we got two! TWO! Oh well. They have till Memorial day, then they are getting phone calls.