Post # 1
Did anybody else not register for gifts? I’m 35, my Fiance is 40 and we will have been living together for a year and a half so we really don’t need anything. We have both decided that we would not want to register for things that we didnt’ need? Did anybody else do this? Also if you don’t register, what do people tend to do for bridal showers? Any suggestions??
Post # 3
If you don’t need anything, don’t register for anything. You or close friends or family can just say that you have the household things that you need. In that situation, most guests will give you cash or a cheque.
If someone throws you are shower, they will know you well enough to know that you don’t need household things. They can theme the shower as a stock the bar shower, wine shower, spa shower etc etc etc.
Post # 4
put on your invitations, website, etc that in lieu of gifts you are asking for a charitable donation to be made to (charity of your choice).
give them a few charities to choose from.
Post # 5
I would just register for things that wear out – sheets, spatulas, towels, oven mitts, tupperwear (is it just me, or does tupperware seem to disappear like socks in a dryer?)etc. The kind of stuff that you can always use more of, or upgrade. The problem with not registering is that people will guess what you want, and bring stuff you don’t need or want, from a store you don’t know, and it may not be returnable.
Post # 6
Also there is a website http://www.honeyfund.com you can use this to register for honeymoon stuff. My Fiance and I have been together for 6 years and lived together for 5. We will register for some stuff like are replaceable at Bed, Bath, and Beyond but another option is this. Apparently, it could be “frowned upon” but what else is there…
Post # 7
Don’t register if you don’t want anything. Accept the gifts that people choose for you with grace.
I would also say if you really don’t want gifts that you should skip the shower. Just thank anyone that offers to host one, and decline.
I would not as other bees suggest requesting other people do charitable donations to any specific charity, as some people get upset by this.
Post # 8
@andielovesj: is it that people get angry about the charities chosen? that’s why I suggested offering a selection of a few different charities for the guest to choose from.
maybe things that people could not politically get angry about– like animal shelters, cancer research, or helping sick kids. that kind of thing. if a guest doesn’t want to donate to any charity, they don’t have to.
if you do feel like you must add some items to your registry, go to your favorite stores and look around. you’d be surprised what you might see that you want. my SO and I had everything we needed already, so here is what we registered for:
- really fancy flatware to replace our old boring flatware (it could be purchaed one set at a time, the individual sets were not too expensive)
- new sharp knives and other upgrades for things we had that were getting old
- for our friends who don’t have much money, we registered for cheap things too. if we didn’t really need them, we returned them to the store and used all the combined credit to buy a nice new piece of furniture.
for the items that got replaced, we donated them to goodwill.
Post # 9
We are not registering. I’m 41 – he’s 40 and we’ve both been on our own for many years. We do not need any stuff.
When people ask I just tell them we don’t need anything. Enjoy yourself at the wedding and bring a card if you want to.
Post # 10
like the donations mentioned above what about starting a honey moon fund or a home imprevement fund? Or like michiganbride2012 said, enjoy the wedding, bring a card.
Post # 11
Traditional showers are for people who really need the gifts/ just starting out.
For my friends in their late 20’s-30’s, they’ve done more like a girly brunch without presents as their showers. We’ve showered them with love instead of presents.
Or a girls trip to celebrate is nice too.
Post # 12
We were 35 when we married and didn’t ‘need’ anything, but both wanted to upgrade things – like pots/pans, knives, vacuum, and other misc. gadgets we’d had our eye on.
We didn’t do china or dishes or some of the more ‘typical’ things on registries (towels, sheets, etc) because we were happy with what we owned.
Registries are helpful for people that want to buy you something. I’d think without a registry, you are likely to get some creative (ie: random) gifts.
Post # 13
We are both 41 and didn’t “need” anything either. But we did register, because people are going to want to buy you typical wedding gifts with or without a registry and if you have one at least you can have some input into what those will be. We basically registered for items that we own but could upgrade such as towels, sheet sets, luggage, cookware, glassware, a larger food processor, and the like. Register somewhere that sells other things you may need, because I know people that have used returns and gift cards to purchase furniture and other items that they wouldn’t have registered for. Worst case scenario you can always use Macy’s giftcards for shoes or makeup!
Post # 14
My boyfriends sister did not register and she got like 5 of the same of everything! 5 dish sets, 5 blenders and so one. Not even kidding. I would at least do a honeyfund. Also I think you should register for a few things since I have heard some guests do not like the whole Honeyfund idea.
Post # 15
I didn’t want to register for the same reasons, also, the stores that have registries are usually so much more expensive, I hated to have people buy us stuff that we could get ourselves for so much less. But that really upset some of my family members who refuse to give cash or gift cards. Being afraid of what they would get us(I need more silverware like another hole in my head) we ended up registring. I keep checking it, and my showers are this week-end and a few items have been purchased. Like many other bee’s have said, just put down for things that you may need in the future as replacements…we did baking sheets(he tends to charcoal them), bbq stuff ect.
Also, this vision of it being great fun to go to the store and scan stuff…total lie, take some advil before you go. When you don’t need anything it is just not fun.
Post # 16
t need much either, so we are registring for a few upgrades and thats it. I think we will register for a kitchenaid mixer (FINALLY!), new knife set, formal flatware and dishes, kitchen forks and knives, possibly new dishes (ikea is great, but….). Beyond that, there is nothing we need or want. I am expecting that people who don’t want to buy anything off the register will LIKELY give us money. Having lived together for quite sometime and having been on our own for a combined 18+ years, it doesn’t make sense to get anything else.