(Closed) What do you do when you have no bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Pixie79:  I would just have no bridesmaids. It can be done.

For the ceremony I would have someone do a reading of some sort, have the groom enter, have the wedding march start and then walk down the aisle. Make it sweet and short.

Or you could like have his GMs stand in an arch around you as a couple at the alter?

Model it maybe after the royal wedding? Do only flowergirls and a ring bearer and maybe one attendant if you wish to.

It can be done! Google image is great. I’m actually looking now.

Post # 4
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Well, I’m not in the same situation, but I can kind of relate.  

S and I met in one province and moved to another together.  However, we are having our wedding across the country where all of his family lives, so while I know his family, I’m not close enough to ask any of them to be in the bridal party.  

We are opting to have no bridal party, and just involve our parents.  He is wearing his dress uniform for the wedding, so while my Mom holds my bouquet, his Mom is holding his hat, and his Dad is holding the rings.  Our parents will also act as our witnesses.  

We had originally planned on a Bridal Party, but after my family fell apart and on e of my bridesmaids passed away, we scrapped the whole thing.   

Its a decision I’m 100% happy with. 

Also wanted to add, that when we moved here, we didn’t know anyone, so I can appreciate feeling isolated.  I took the opportunity to take some classes, join a fitness group, and tried to be more receptive of people.  It took about a year and bit, but we made some fantastic friends.  it will come, I promise! 

Post # 5
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I actually found an image on google image where the couple had their PARENTS at the alter beside them in formal wear!!

Post # 6
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Honestly, I think you’ll be fine without them! One of mine caused me so much drama and expense in the end that I would probably rather not have had any. Actually I started off planning for none, but then was pressured into having them. My mum was my best support throughout and my dad walked me down the aisle. The only thing is if you want a hen party but you don’t absolutely need that. Good luck x

Post # 8
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We eloped so no BMs for me on our wedding day and it was awesome! You will be fine. Bridesmaids can often be nothing more than a headache lol

Post # 9
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Hey lady! Here’s what I think you should do – neither of you have official bridesmaids / groomsmen.  That way you don’t feel like he looks all popular while you don’t have anyone on your side.  But before the wedding, as you’re getting ready, you each have whomever you want hang out and get ready with you. That way your fiancé still gets his bro time but you don’t have to feel awkward at the ceremony. 

My sister got married this summer and they had no wedding party at all – it was lovely and intimate and not weird at all.

Post # 10
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My brother-in-law had no wedding party, and it was lovely. I think the two fathers signed the register as witnesses. I definitely think no BMs is preferable to using people you’re not very close to.

Post # 11
1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We don’t have a bridal party. We’ll have our siblings and a best friend do the carrying of rings, speaches and stuff. We won’t have anyone standing besides us at the ceremony.

Post # 12
2488 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

is he ok not having a bridal party?

or just having one?

I’ll be your bridesmaid! j.k! but I hope you figure this all out! I kinda feel how you did with not having alot of pepole to ask – I got lucky and they all where able to make it tho!

Wishes for you~!

Post # 14
467 posts
Helper bee

@Pixie79:  Awww, don’t think of it as an imposition.  For most of my friends, I was thrilled to be in their wedding party and would have been hurt if I hadn’t been asked. I alway was expected to buy at least a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, and never really thought of the basic costs as an imposition.  I would talk to the girl you want as your Maid/Matron of Honor.  It sounds like she has a lot on her plate.  I know when I was asked to be Maid/Matron of Honor for my bestfriend since elementary school, I had a lot on my plate.  I wasn’t the most helpful Bridesmaid or Best Man ever and wasn’t always the most communicative with the bride either.  I wasn’t trying to be unhelpful, but I could barely take care of myself.  Glad the birde didn’t take offense. She might just be busy and might not be trying to blow you off.  

I always believe in open communication.  So much gets lost and friendships get ruined when one person percieves a slight and the other person is unaware it was given.  You’ve been friends with the potential Maid/Matron of Honor for a long time, I think its worth following up with her and having a real heart to heeart.  It certainly can’t hurt.  There’s no reason to give up on a frienship thats spanned decades just because she’s been off recently.  It would probably be nice for you to have at least one close friend standing with you at your wedding. 

Good luck!

Post # 15
48 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

Instead of having a bridal party you could just have witnesses (I am not sure if you need them in the US, but in AUS we have to have witnesses sign our marriage licence)

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