(Closed) What do you do when you just have no more desire to plan?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I hear you lady!  I have been there and back again.  Sometimes it helps to take a little break from planning, including blogs, inspiration photo searches, etc.  Where are you at in your planning?  Do you have the time to take a few days or a couple weeks to be “wedding-free”?  With your busy schedule, this might be what you need to not feel so overwhelmed.  If not, maybe you can recruit the help of friends or family members to help you power through the planning (i.e. attend appointments, shop for things you need, etc.)?  Good luck!  I know it will work out for the best.

Post # 4
Member
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You first stop feeling guilty about taking a break! Wedding planning SUCKS, at least imho. I have to take frequent breathers to remind myself that I do want a wedding at all, for me. That helps when I realize that no one else cares about my wedding. Which happens to a lot of brides.

Also, I’m of the opinion that wedding planning gets so overwhelming because there is this standard of perfection that we see in magazine, on blogs, etc. It is a little like the skinny models and photoshopping of pictures. Your wedding and my wedding don’t have to look anything like that! It would take us too much time and effort that for us is better spent elsewhere.

There don’t have to be perfect little details! There don’t have to be any details, really. Just food, drink, an officiant or something like one, and a happy bride. OK?

Post # 5
Member
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think I’m just passing out of my funk.  Feel good about what you get done…don’t stress about what you don’t and most importantly don’t compare yourself to other brides especially on here!  We all have different work schedules/responsibilities etc and it totally affects planning.  

For me personally I have decided that I will not accept stressing over the little things. I don’t want my wedding to be about that.  There are a few things I really care about and I’m taking time to make those decisions and then be ok with them after they are made.  Favors? don’t care.  Save the dates? not really necessary for me.  Cake? I love watching the cake shows, but I don’t really like cake, so I’m not going to spend a lot of effort on it.

Take some time off and then reevaluate your priorities.

Post # 6
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate.  I think you should give yourself some time off from wedding planning to try and recharge your batteries a bit.  Maybe delegate a bit, letting other people help you.

Post # 7
Member
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I second delegating!

In addition, if you are the type of person who is really into researching all the small details and comparing etc, I suggest going with something you like and sticking to it.  When it came to invitations, I was OVERWHELMED, especially because I’m not in Canada and was trying to order from the Internet.  Trying to research all the options, compare prices, and wrap my head around all the posibilities was insane.  Finally, I just sat down, picked one that was nice, and stopped worrying about if there were other better options out there.  Sometimes I think we can get weighed down with all the amazing options out there and just need to make a choice. 

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