Post # 1
…but they are not someone who will go away. If you have a family member or co-worker or acquaintance who you absolutely can not stand, how do you deal with them when you have to be around them?
Personally, I ignore them, as in years and years without uttering a single word to them. If we are the only two people in the room, I walk right past them. I can absolutely pretend like they don’t exist, and have found that this makes people boil. To me this is so much easier and more satisfying than engaging with them.
Post # 3
I try to ignore them but sometimes it’s so hard!! My FI’s best friend dates my former good friend who was also a coworker and room mate for about a month. We had a huge fight and still had to work together. I’d ignore her but sometimes she’d do things just to irritate me, like glare at me for HOURS and (we worked in an electronic store) turn the TV off when I was watching it and have her friends come up there and they’d “whisper” about me laughing hysterically. Once she got in trouble at work by our manager and I didn’t do anything, not look at her, not talk to her, nothing and she kept glaring at me like I caused it. It did not end in a good situation. I am so glad that I don’t work there anymore!
Post # 4
I am cordial and polite and I do not engage with them in away beyond that.
Post # 5
This topic made me think of this:
So guilty of that!
But seriously, I try to just avoid them as much as possible and be polite when interaction is necessary. There really aren’t a lot of people that I don’t like.
Post # 6
Depends on why I can’t stand them.
If they’re a be-otch and incredibly rude/mean I do my best to kill them with kindness
If they’re just absolutely annoying I try tune them out. I’m never rude about , if they’re communicating with me I communicate back, however, if I don’t have a reason to be paying attention to them I always try to find a distraction.
Post # 7
Kill them with kindness. It seems to work well here on the bee.
Post # 8
Like PP said- it depends WHY I hate them:
If I “really dislike” someone because they went out of their way to hurt me or someone that I love, I’m pretty malicious. I’m just a huge bitch and I won’t back down until they leave. (Example: betraying a family member…things of that sort.) It takes a lot for me to get to that point- but there’s no turning back once I’m there.
If it’s someone I just don’t like, then I’m very quiet and just make no effort to make eye contact or converse with them.
Post # 9
@TwoCityBride: yes! i try to never let on that i hate them.
Post # 10
I’m with you. I put up walls…and ignore.
Post # 11
@risingsun: bahaha! one of my sisters and I were talking about that when we saw it on pintrest the other day. It is true. Some brawds (braud, broad?- hmm, never tried to spell that one before) do eat crackers like they own the place (;
Post # 12
I’m Buddhist, so I have a different take on things. If I really dislike someone, I try to understand why they are so mean, miserable, etc. I end up feeling sorry for them and what they say or do ends up rolling off my back.
In my experience, people who are mean or nasty are just miserable with everyone. If you can get them to have a nicer day or smile, it might help them be less abrasive.
Post # 13
I am courteous with those whom I don’t care for and I avoid those I deem harmful.
Post # 14
I usually just quite short with them. If they speak to me I will reply quickly and then look for an out.
Sometimes I know I should just give people more of a chance because sometimes I do this to people who haven’t given me a real reason except for they give me a bad feeling when I meet them… But can I also add that often as time goes on I am justified in my original judgement cos they become crazy or douchebaggy so I feel vindicated I didn’t waste time or energy trying to work past my gut feeling – yes I am a bitch sometimes…
Post # 15
@risingsun: Bahaha. I love this.
I’m usually in the “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” camp…
Post # 16
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: I am trying to be this way. I am getting better!!
@ShellVee: this is totally me <3