(Closed) What do you do when your wonderful SO turns into a whiney sick Man-Child?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
Member
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@PoppyH:  OMG I laughed so loud at your title! It is so true, men make such a big deal out of being sick. FH is pretty good, not too whiny, and he is wonderful to me when I am sick so I do my best to return the favor. 

Post # 33
Member
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My Darling Husband is okay when he’s sick – it doesn’t happen that often, thankfully – so I just buy him soup and tissues, tuck him into bed and leave him to sleep. 

However, he is a MASSIVE sook about getting up in the mornings and going to work. You’d think he was the only person in world history who had to set an alarm, wake up and be at work by a certain time. I tried to play along (“oh, that sucks, I know you hate your job, you must be tired”) but one day I just cracked and told him exactly what I just wrote – that practically everyone in the WORLD has had to wake up before they want to and to get over it and go to sleep earlier, get a coffee or suck it up. The tough love approach seemed to work!

Post # 34
Member
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@PoppyH:  I’m exactly the same – I HATE being touched or interacted with when I don’t feel well (cold, headache, depressed, etc). My Darling Husband thinks that he has to be around all the time when I’m sick when I really just want to be on my own. 

Post # 35
Member
2680 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I baby him for like the first day & then I’m annoyed haha.  He gets a gnarly cold probably twice a year & that’s it!   *Knock on wood,* but we are usually pretty healthy so complaining constantly doesn’t get him too far after a while with me haha

This is usually how it goes..

Darling Husband: Babe, I don’t feel good.  Honey, I need to cuddle.  Why does this have to happen?!  I can’t breathe!

Me: It’s a stuffy nose, my big ray of sunshine!  Breathe through your mouth, go to sleep, & find your balls!!  I love you & hope you feel better ;]

Post # 36
Member
314 posts
Helper bee

@PoppyH:  I treat Fiance like a baby! Lucky guy haha. But oooh if he refuses medicine (and he has) I force him to take it!! 

Post # 38
Member
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I love this thread so much.

Post # 39
Member
1010 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@PoppyH:  It must be a universal thing with guys!! When mine starts whining and boohooing about not feeling well, I offer tylenol/ibuprofen/whatever meds are appropriate for the situation. He declines, sniffles, snots, boohoos some more, wants me to pay attention to him and baby him like I’m his friggin mommy, and I don’t have time or patience for that. I just tell him if he’s gonna bitch about not feeling good, he can either take something for it or STFU. I flat out tell him he cannot bitch if he refuses to help himself feel better. LOL

Post # 40
Member
3859 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh I am horrible because I never have any sympathy or patience for him when he is sick. He is such a whiner and complains about every little stuffy nose or scrape. Once when he had man flu (aka common cold) he wantEd soup so I made him some… When I sat down on the couch with it he opened his mouth as if he wanted to be fed. Being the impatient snark I was I said, “oh no… Has the disease rendered you unable to use your hands?” Then I felt bad…. But come on!!!!

I don’t blame you for not wanting to be near him if you are pregnant!

Post # 41
Member
3296 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

When my husband is sick, he spends 90% of his time in a hot bath with a book, so I have it pretty easy. That said, he definitely gets a bit whiny and needy. I really like spoiling him though, so I am happy to feed him, etc…

Post # 42
Member
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@PoppyH:  lol I’m a nurse, so when Fiance got the flu last fall I got him some broth and powerade/gatorade for when he felt like he could keep something down, told him to go to bed and sleep…..and mark my words, “Quit your damn complaining”. Hahahaha. The day after he was done with the pukeys, I handed him a bucket, some cleaner and a wash cloth and told him to go clean the toilet, walls around the toilet and the floor around it.

 

If he has a cold or cough, I have to make him take something or he’ll just sit there and not do anything about it and complain. My response when he doesn’t take something and follow my advice? “That’s your own fault. Quit whining if you don’t do something about it.”

If I get sick, he wants to baby me, etc. where I’m the type of person who does not want to be talked much to, does not want to be touched and I’d rather just do stuff for myself. I don’t get sick very often (I’ve had strep once, and a cold once and an ear infection that came with the cold) but when I do, I’d rather just curl up, drink warm things, take whatever I know will make me feel better and not talk becase my head most likely hurts and talking makes it worse. I don’t want to cuddle on him or whatever because I KNOW if he gets sick, he will become a huge baby! Hahahah.

Surprised I’m a meanie.

 

 

 

Post # 43
Member
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My husband was sick last night (too much alcohol) so I got his bucket for him, wiped his mouth and rubbed his back. Mostly when he’s unwell he sleeps it off. I try my hardest to look after him, cos he does it for me. He doesn’t sook, whine or complain, and if he does, it’s not that much.

The topic ‘What do you do when your wonderful SO turns into a whiney sick Man-Child?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors