(Closed) What do you do with gifts you can't return?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Take them to goodwill or throw them out.

Post # 4
5091 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Since they have your names on them, you probably just can’t donate them, which would be my suggestion otherwise.  I would toss them.  :-

Post # 5
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I know that some will disagree with me… but here is my opinion

BUT THEY WERE A GIFT… A Wedding Gift.  From someone YOU cared enough to share your day with (or someone who wasn’t invited, but still thought enough of you to send a gift)

They may not be your taste or style (understandable).  But to reject them and right out call them CLUTTER is unappreciative, unkind, and RUDE

There was a time when such a gift would be hidden away in a closet, only to be pulled out to share with the Gift Giver if they were to come over for a visit.

A crazy custom perhaps… but still a good one.

Posts like this make me very sad, on how much the world (especially the Wedding World) has changed.

You are missing an opportunity to be grateful and gracious… to be able to even perhaps laugh 20 years from now at the whacky glasses you got from Aunty Anne who now has passed away.  Her style might not have been your style… but she was a H3LL of a lady… and you remember her fondly.

And so you break out the wacky champagne glasses on occasion every year (be it your Anniversary, Thanksgiving, or New Years, and toast to life and how sweet it is to be alive and have great friends and family… even those that are no longer with you)

Just my 2 bits

But then I am an Older Bee, and came to realize a long time ago that the world is a lot bigger place than somewhere that is only focussed on me and my wants / needs in life.


Post # 6
5951 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@vanessa7:  …how much clutter can champagne flutes create?  And they’re engraved, someone went to a lot of trouble to get those to you, whether you like them or not, you have to appreciate the gesture….squirell them away, you never know when you’ll need them.

My Grandmother gave me a huge collection of punch and sandwich plates…that I never thought I would use, for one thing, they’re pressed glass, so they’re quite a stack when stored, not to mention the handled glasses and the punch bowl…altogether its a pretty awkward package, but I love having them now, for every party, the hors d’oeuvres are put out with the plates and last fall we served boiling grog from the punch bowl….it was awesome…and to think, I almost threw them out.

Post # 7
13564 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@vanessa7:  Any way to just leave them in the box and put them in storage? That’s what I did with a few gifts that I can’t return but don’t have the heart to toss just yet, as I know the people who gave them to me put a lot of thought into them.

Post # 8
2211 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sentimental, so I would probably just keep them…at least for a while.  I think in your case really the only thing you can do is throw them out, now or later, since they have your names on them.

I disagree with the previous poster that said getting rid of them would be ungracious.  Your time to be gracious was in the lovely thank you note that you have or will send to the gift giver.  IMO, once you have received a gift, it’s yours to do what you want with.  Keeping something around that you will not use does not benefit anyone.

Post # 9
1285 posts
Bumble bee

re-gift them.  Kidding.  I kept mine in storage. If it didn’t get used after so many years, they ended up at good will or sold at a garage sale.  


Post # 10
3725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@vanessa7:  I’d toss those bitches right in the recycling can. Appreciate the thought but why retain a hideous gift? I’m not sentimental like that and I would view them as clutter too.

Post # 11
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would just throw them.

Post # 12
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@This Time Round:  how presumptious to think that she is only focused on her because of this post. sometimes an ugly champagne flute is just an ugly champagne flute.

Post # 14
11232 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m the same way, OP. We received a LOT of off-registry gifts, which really sucks because people wasted money on stuff that it going to get given away/donated. We live in a small apartment with no storage space and a tiny kitchen. We registered for items that would replace things we already have and need to upgrade, as well as a few “new” things that we had been wanting and would definitely use/had room for. I don’t understand why people who have never been to our place think that they know what we need better than we do. We did not register for any bakeware because we have one base cabinet in which to put it, and it’s already full (and that stuff is nice Pyrex stuff). We still ended up with a huge gift bag of bakeware + a box of baking pans that we’ll never use that are definitely not from Target. We also received a partial set of dishes that look nothing like anything we own or registered for.

We also received two crystal champagne glasses from DH’s grandma. We’ve already made it clear that we DO NOT WANT her crystal (she’s tried giving us stuff before), and we have no room for them–we already own four champagne glasses that never get used and are shoved in the back of the very top of a cabinet. At least it was just two?

Post # 16
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can you use them in another way?   Use them as a mini vase for one or two flowers?  Or put candies in them on the living room or kitchen table?   Put up a tiny corner shelf to display them yet keep them out of the way?

if you can’t find another use, dump em

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